just wondering, how does fantasy fit in to the who issue related to Masturbation, orgasm, porn ect?

Main question: How to bond (and stay in love) if your partner moved abroad and you cannot see each other for months?

Hello and very pleased to meet you. I am not in an actual marriage but didn't find a better subforum to ask my question.

On day 10 and feeling like smiling! However, I think my body is telling me to slow down a little. Thursday I did a leg workout, which is much, much better when you have this resevior of power. I was able to lift more weight than ever. It left me justifiably physically tired. The problem is I still had this undercurrent of energy! Weird. Even after meditating, I slept a bit restelessly and went to work the next morning, ran some errands, and went into a bookstore. It hit me there, my eyes starting gazing over, even the coffee only helped a little. When I finally got home, I CRASHED!

Still doing well, if a more than a little tired and cranky. It's been a crazy week at work and tomorrow is going to prove to be a real bear and I feel that I may be tempted to revert back to my old familiar ways of coping with stress...namely porn and masturbation. But, as I have still not heard from my old nemesis, The Beast, in a few days, I think I'll be better able to chill out with a beer and my TIVO'd episodes of "Poker After Dark" (sounds like a porn title... )

Step 2 is my next set of goals which wills span three weeks, starting with 3/1/10. This thread will track my progress.

Goals for Step 2:

I am not going to kid myself - while my recent return to aversion bubble solo binge behavior is not of the magnitude that such binges often were in the past, I am essentially guilty of binge behavior in the form of 3 episodes over the weekend - the 3rd was Sunday (yesterday), and therefore I am little more than 24 hours out of the last episode. Yes, I know that some times for many of us even a day or two - or even a few hours sometimes - is a success/positive step.

Marnia made a comment on another blog about not liking to use guilt as a motivator for changing behaviors. I believe I know what she meant, and I don't really think I'm contradicting that thought, but I did want to explore this further. I think because there's more to this than meets the eye when it comes to guilt. So bear with me while I "think out loud" for a bit.

My wife, now 8 months pregnant, looked particularly appealing to me this morning. I like her curviness, and I think carrying the baby around has toned her legs. I told her: "Hey honey, it is day 21". This was our previous goal. I haven't had an O in three weeks now, and I think she likely goes back farther than that, albeit for different reasons. Her response: "Oh my goodness!" For good reason, I think her focus has been on other things.

This is a post I've thought about recently, but have been a little reluctant to write. For two reasons.

One, this isn't a site about religion, specifically Christianity. Yet, the topic does come up here and there, tonight in a post from Marina concerning one theory of history. (Which I would have a hard time swallowing, but that's another issue and not where I want to go here.)