dating

So, here's just a little update on my progress and dating life.

I had an interesting experience last night. I went out with a new friend, someone I know casually. There were supposed to be others there, but it ended up being the two of us and it started to feel like a date.

I was going to rant a bit about online dating but that’s not going to be productive. I’ve got a bit of a pattern that exists both in real life and in the online dating world. I can generate enough interest to get interaction going, but the only time anything progresses overall seems to be when the woman initiates. Even in real life, it could be that I’ll say something a woman latches onto and then that can lead to interesting discussions. I've crafted my online profile for that to happen and it has, but I wouldn't yet call that a great success.

I’ve been pondering this for a variety of reasons. The common notion is that partners got lucky. Some, including the pickup community, say that is nonsense and that with enough active work, one can gain more personal selectivity. I agree more with the PUA folks in the sense that by broadcasting more true self, one will attract different partners. Does that really lead to more control/selectivity as opposed to just a more suitable sample?

I’ve been thinking about Gary’s thread http://www.reuniting.info/node/9508. Folks are here for different reasons. Reboot can be boiled down to resolving ED by improving brain balance or it can be deeper where one tries to rewire core characteristics and circumstances that led to PMO use proclivity in the first place. If one thinks of this as a side of a bell curve, getting that residual growth as one shifts more standard deviations from the mean takes a lot more work than getting the initial benefit from less brain stimulation.

...because I can be someone else for a while.

364 days of the year, I'm a walking sex bomb, like it or not. On Halloween, so many other women wear revealing costumes that, in my cartoon-character drag, I simply fade into the background.

For some lucky reason i have had a flood of dating opportunities in the last few weeks. I have recently been dating a few girls and i thought id share my experiences of bonding behaviours, karezza, touch, sex etc while dating.

Hi,

I've been around for a while, reading some of your stories and experiences with rebooting. I'd like to thank everyone who is sharing their thoughts here. It was very helpful.
I wanted to share my own story. Hoping to get some feedback from you guys. Maybe it also help someone. Please excuse my bad english, I'm not a native speaker.

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When I was about 23 years old, I used to consider myself pretty good in bed. Sometimes I was a bit shy around girls, but I was always able to get over it. I've got no problem geting it up and minimum problems with premature ejaculation.