Male - Female Issues

I try to fit in socializing when I can. It's mostly as an outsider because I bounce around and try different events. I'm in an intellectual and at times disconnected city. I have some places where I'm a regular. Regular or not, socializing isn't satisfying. Maybe I'm looking for something that isn't there. I know someone is going to say that's why people find a partner to spend time with. I agree. However, it's still useful to make good use of socializing. It seems something is not as it could be if socializing isn't satisfying. I'm not sure if socializing was ever satisfying for me.

Search has been a tad buggy as the site gets re-indexed. I’m pretty sure this is another post that’s been sitting around for a while (6 months or so).

Keep in mind I’ve had only limited experience with these events filtered through my own perspective. Your experiences may differ due to the hosts, who you are, mood, others who are there, etc. Both are worth trying.

Eye gazing party -e.g., http://www.eyegazingparties.com

So I listened to this interview, it blew my mind off! It was just so damn true. I mean all my life I have heard for example that masturbation (and porn) is good for ya. Advices such as rubbing one out before going on a date, doing it before bedtme as a sleeping pill, using porn for incresed stamina (!). Almost every fucking day I read in the newspaper that some sexologist or what the fuck they call them giving shitty advises to people. No science what so ever, just some liberal nonsense.

I read Getting to "I Do" by Dr. Patricia Allen (ISBN: 978-0-380-71815-3 http://www.amazon.com/Getting-I-Do-Pat-Allen/dp/0380718154) It’s target audience is women, but the author claims either sex can make use of the information. Some is decent, but I do wonder where the wheels came off in the sense that much seems intuitive to me while other parts I find disturbing. If that is what is required to find a long-term partner, I question how this is going to happen for me.

I’m using attractiveness in a holistic sense beyond just the physical. For those in long-term relationships, I’m wondering how their partner ranked initially in attractiveness compared to others they seriously considered and, if so, how that attractiveness level moved about over time.

I'm new here, I don't even know if this is the right place to put my thread, but anyways I'll just tell my story in case someone wants to read or have something to suggest.

Hi, this is my first post on Reuniting.

To begin, I am glad that I have found this site and have had the chance to read the many encouraging stories of others. I can’t tell you how optimistic I feel about my future.

The tangent: For whatever reason, genuineness resonates with me, in some sense more than authenticity. I’m not entirely sure what the difference is. Authenticity might denote a correctness that genuineness doesn’t require. Genuineness can denote notions of pure bred. Pureness seems less off-putting than correctness. In this context, pureness means pure among oneself, i.e., the supremacy of the self with respect to the self. It’s splitting hairs, but whatever works for each individual I guess.

OMG my penis!(a joke I have seen going on around here) So I have been thinking about this lately... And I just wanted to sort of vent a little. So my parents made me go through this archaic, outdated, barbaric ritual before I was even old enough to talk or even make my own choice. A part of my body mutilated by some butcher of a doctor who thinks it's okay to do such a thing to someone so young and my foreskin was removed.