July 13, 2010

This post is subtitled:

A Few Thoughts From Dano Clark Who Is Wearing a Cigar Jacket In an Easy Chair By The Fire With His Laptop Whose Homepage is Reuniting.info

Dear Fellow Wankers and Seekers of Relationship Harmony,

Thought I would share this for all interested (Normally not my kind of thing at all). Not quite so sure about some of the spirituality that it starts with but I like the rest.

http://joy2meu.com/WeddingPrayer.html

With respect to religious traditions, I'm a pretty serious student. I was an extremely active member of a western Sufi order for over two years. I've studied Fourth Way (Gurdjieff/Ouspensky), Golden Dawn, and Thelemic traditions. I also have a background in Reformed Christianity (traditional Presbyterianism) and consider myself to be well-versed in both mainstream Christian scholarship and esoteric Christian thought. I'm also basically a non-theist and consider my spiritual interests to be "psychological" in nature, though that in no way diminishes their significance for me.

Abstract

Animal studies have implicated oxytocin and vasopressin in social bonding, physiological stress responses, and wound healing. In humans, endogenous oxytocin and vasopressin levels covary with perceptions of relationship quality, marital behaviors, and physiological stress responses.

Original New York Times article: http://www.nytimes.com/2010/04/18/magazine/18marriage-t.html?pagewanted=...

From about the start of February to the start of April, my habits were as good as they have been in years, culminating in running a 10k a few weeks ago. At the end of March, our little (and third and last) bundle of joy arrived, and everyone is doing great. But most of my habits have dropped under the stress and fatigue. I have been extremely tired over the last several days, and sometimes indulge to try to "perk" myself up---whether it is bad MB or eating or other habits. Even before I fell off the wagon, I could feel a drop in my sex drive.

Now I'm ready to head into step 4, after successfully completing the previous 3 steps in my plan.

This one will be easier as I had originally planned. Basically a free-for-all stage. No planned days of abstinence for the next month and a half. My plan was to enjoy whenever I wanted up until after my anniversary. Then I would have two weeks of abstaining on Wednesdays and Fridays, followed by heading into step 5, a full month of abstinence.

Hi everybody,
I have come across this web recently and as I and my husband in 33-years-long marriage do tao sex in the last couple of years, I would like to share our experience. We repaired our marriage thanks to this way of soft and caring sex and started our way of transformation. Problems haven´t disappear but life is real, here and now, and our souls are dancing in Light.

About a week ago, I was feeling kind of moody. I had been working hard, and shifting a lot of habits (eating, sleeping, exercise, for e.g.) at once is not easy. My wife and I were bickering a little, and she asked me if I wanted to have an "O". "Would it make you feel better?" she asked. I had to be honest, and let her know that I expected that it would provide some relief, but it would be short lived. I didn't want cave into temptation just because I was feeling moody. It didn't seem right, and I didn't think I would like the outcome.

I hear this is an awful movie but I have never seen it. In any event, I have made it this long with no intercourse or orgasm and my relationship has improved. At this point, my wife does not feel good and has a low sex drive. I don't want to try to have an intense experience right now, and we have mutually agreed to stay with this for at least a few more weeks.