marriage

(I started writing a comment in another blog post but then it was getting so long and monologue'ish I thought I should make this a blog post. Here's the original post I was inspired by: http://www.reuniting.info/node/11113)

I want to share some ideas on unconditional love cause I'm noticing that my ability to love is really shifting for me now as I redirect my sexual energy towards being giving and loving. I guess it's also about having clearer boundaries.

As I wrote a few days ago, this is very early in our new sexual relationship. My wife ("Sparkles") and I are in our fifties and since I quit masturbating and quit having orgasms, about 3 weeks ago, I am changing the relationship and my wife finds this new intensity discomfiting and "pressure" which it is.

Marriage and sex, how wonderful! -- Introduction from Emerson

I started to masturbate when I was maybe 10 or 11. At the age of 13 a girl tried to seduce me but I felt I was too young. I hadn't had a proper puberty yet. Maybe I was closer to 12 actually.

Scary.

Then an aggressive girl across the street was babysitting and invited me over to the empty house. The kid was asleep. She wanted me. But I couldn't really get into it. I was scared.

A few years back, I read most of the book Think and Get Rich. One aspect of the book that stood out, is that the author says that most successful men are married and they got married young. He basically said, these men we able to use the same energy that most men use to chase women and apply it to their business or what either other pursuit the were looking to achieve rather then trying to get laid. So when we look at women, one way to stop objectifying them, is to start seeing them as a potential wife rather than a "hook up" or a "lay".

Got married on October 1st! Still in bliss from that experience. The ceremony itself was phenomenal - earth based ritual incorporating elements of Buddhism and Quakerism.

I’ll turn 70 at the end of the month and life is good. The whole family is coming out to a little watering hole in West Texas to celebrate. Still healthy – none of the major killers/robbers-of-quality-of-life have showed up. I’m still able to go out for a good long run or a bike ride or a yoga session nearly every morning. Still wake up with a woody nearly every day – and no steeeking Viagra, thank you. Still married after 40+ years with wonderful kids and a grandchild.

Once there was a boy who owned a fine boat. The boat was able to sail great distances and could navigate the most difficult waters, under the hand of a skilled pilot. The boy worked very hard to develop his skills and became very good sailing the waters of Bon Secour. One day he saw a beautiful girl and arranged a meeting with her. He fell in love and asked her to come live with him on his boat. She fell in love with him, too, and soon the two were living together happily.