T and I had been going to marriage counseling for about 6 months to work towards more harmony in our relationship. Our approach [in counseling] was more of an "ignore and do the opposite of our old patterns/baggage," but I found it is/was quite forced and it took a huge amount of energy to keep this up.
We did the first 14 or so Exchanges [from Peace Between the Sheets], and I noticed many significant changes in our interactions as the result. The most apparent was that we related harmoniously and easily without forcing things. I didn't really have to push down my old patterns because they didn't come up so much anymore with him. We were touching and connecting like in the beginning of our relationship and it was nice to know that we could feel that way again. I would say that the changes were very dramatic and noticeable right away, and I would highly recommend this approach to anyone who is interested in a more harmonious marriage/partnership. I would also highly recommend it for people who have lost all "hope" or connection in their relationship.
I would be happy to have my experience shared.