I have always been greatly bothered by knowing that my husband believes orgasm is natural and no problem, although he has never given me any sort of pressure to try regular sex again. (We did it that way a handful of times at the start of our relationship 5 yrs ago). Yet I knew he was interested to try orgasm again, because for him it is harmless.

Recently I said, "okay let's try it for say a month with orgasms just to see." I thought it would be sort of good for me to let go of the fear of orgasm that the Samael Aun Weor classes had started. They had demonised orgasms so to speak. I thought it would be good for me to go there again, so that I wasn't carrying a phobia of them with me anymore.

So we did twice have orgasms intentionally and after that he said, "That's enough. Can we please go back to what we have been doing?" He said this even though I was happy to continue experimenting. Our sex-without-orgasm practice is 'making love' for him, whereas what just happened was like 'just only sex.'

Mission accomplished!!! Now I don't have those nagging thoughts any longer that "yes, he enjoys what we do, but it could be even more enjoyable for him with orgasm."

A person who rationalises that orgasms are good and healthy but prefers the 'making love and avoiding it' style is such a good advertisement, no?

For me the experiment was a refreshing reminder that orgasms let out the lovely magical feeling you have built up during intercourse. Plus they are such an addictive thing, the next day my thoughts kept getting interrupted by annoying feelings of being in the mood for more. Sex without orgasm leaves such a long-lasting satisfaction as compared to sex with orgasm that it is almost ironic.

L., Australia

P.S. [Added months later] I just wanted to share a comment my husband made: He said making love is like inflating a balloon. Having an orgasm is like popping the balloon whereas if you finish without an orgasm it is like you are a balloon which takes several days to gradually deflate, leaving you much longer to enjoy the inflated feeling.

(Like I have mentioned before I love how even though he does not acknowledge any relationship harmony effects through this style of lovemaking, or anything wrong with orgasm, he prefers it because it simply feels better after.)