What doesn't help

Repeating old, unhelpful thought patterns and behaviors Replaying your old tapes re-traumatizes you and stops you from laying down new brain pathways to good feelings. Human brains are plastic. If we continually activate pathways that don’t allow us to move forward, we are being just as hurtful to ourselves as any past aggressor.

Plotting revenge Plotting revenge keeps you locked in rage. However, it can be very healing to think of funny ideas for outrageous revenge that you would not actually carry out. Laughter is good medicine.

Scolding or shaming Please refrain from judging or scolding. If you feel you or someone else has been unfairly treated, kindly private-message an administrator, or email feedbackATreuniting.info.

Isolating yourself with your own perspectives Your tribemates are your friends. Don’t accept everything you hear, but connect with people you trust, in person or on line.

Catharsis How can you hope to clear out triggers by reactivating them? Instead, learn how to lower the volume from your limbic brain, while having compassion for yourself. Only then can you steer where you want to go.

Attempting the perfect catharsis that will end your pain forever is like seeking for the perfect porn video that will end cravings forever. Neither works. Next time stress builds, you’ll have the same impulse to enrage yourself to exhaustion.

Specialness People filled with rage have good reasons for their anger. However, it can be tempting to assume you are entitled to special treatment and your own personal code of behavior that takes into account only your own feelings and perceptions. Whatever happened in the past, it is not a good excuse for hurting others, or yourself, in the present. Please do not urge others to join in your crusade for revenge, as it will only make it harder for you to see your circumstances in a new light.

Anyone prone to rage storms will resonate with yours. This kind of support may give you short-term satisfaction, but it can keep both of you stuck.

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