♥ I get very turned on just cuddling

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Submitted by emerson on

Every time we cuddle, which now is before bedtime and when waking, I get very aroused. Is this good, bad, any suggestions, or experiences?

I enjoy it a great deal and it is quite satiating in itself. So nothing wrong with it. But as I embark on this Karezza expedition I want to not fall into any old patterns without at least re-examining them.

Sparkles explained that when we cuddle she doesn't feel that way at all. So there is a huge difference.

Any comments welcomed. Thanks

♥ I did it!

Submitted by Clarity on

It was very strange to feel like a novice. Usually I know what I'm doing in bed. (Or on the couch, as the case may be.) But I am really inexperienced at this whole thing. I said "it's an experiment, I don't know what I'm doing yet." I asked for his help. I said "I need you to work with me on this to keep us both calm and focused, not get frenzied or build tension." I am so glad I practiced in my fantasies. It helped a lot to know that it works better to breathe and focus than to tense up and fight against it.

♥Scheduling encounters to increase harmony

Submitted by Karezza Korner on

(emerson) My wife was deeply worried that I would be unhappy now that I quit masturbating and am looking solely to our sexual union to meet my needs. I, in turn, became very clingy and needy and altogether unpleasant.

We had some conversations about it. I said, "Let's try to have regular snuggly time, with or without intercourse, every day, before bedtime and upon waking."

She said, "That seems too rules-based and mechanical."

♥ yeast infections

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My wife has over the last few years post-menopausally been sensitive to yeast infections.

I think this new way of doing things promotes much more lubrication and there is no ejaculation of course either. I doubt she'll have a problem.

But after PIV she jumps up to urinate and take a shower. I think over time she'll find this is not a worry, but what has been your experience? Thanks

♥my wife and I reached an agreement

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Sparkles was deeply worried that I would be unhappy now that I quit masturbating and am looking solely to our sexual union to meet my needs.

I in turn became very clingy and needy and altogether unpleasant.

We had some conversations about it. I said, let's try to have regular snuggly time, with or without intercourse, every day, before bedtime and upon waking.

She said, that seems too rules based and mechanical.

♥things are really changing for me

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As I write this, I am spending time in an area with a lot of beautiful women.

Recap: It's maybe been 3 or 4 weeks without any PMO and I've been doing karezza with my wife for a short while.

I went through a period of maybe 2 weeks when this first started, when I was very horny and had a great urgency and felt great pressure around sex.

It is different now.

The more time I spend with my beautiful wife even without orgasm the more thrilled I am and I don't feel that horny urgency anymore.

help recovering - my experience

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I started to masturbate when I was maybe 11 and quickly found fantasies to masturbate with, in Penthouse and a book called The _______.

I guess very early maybe 4 or 5 I didn't realize it but I found sexual pleasure in domination themes. I think this is built in somehow. So when I discovered the written word and pornographic stories I gravitated to those that had an S&M component.

Ditto with pornographic movies and videos although I never really got into these so much. I would use pornographic stories and read them and masturbate to these, often over an hour or two.

♥Sensitivity seems to have increased

Submitted by Fisherman on

Okay, so a question for those of you venturing more towards the karezza side of things, particularly men. Have you noticed an increased sensitivity as you've tried things. Lately, I've been having orgasms without even doing anything. Sometimes, within just a matter of seconds or minutes entering. Now, I understand that I probably sound like I'm asking about premature ejaculation, etc., but this is totally different. I've never had an issue with controlling myself, at least for an adequate amount of time.

♥Help! I'm too pushy for cuddling and sex

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As I wrote a few days ago, this is very early in our new sexual relationship. My wife ("Sparkles") and I are in our fifties and since I quit masturbating and quit having orgasms, about 3 weeks ago, I am changing the relationship and my wife finds this new intensity discomfiting and "pressure" which it is.

♥marriage, sex and karezza, intro to Emerson

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Marriage and sex, how wonderful! -- Introduction from Emerson

I started to masturbate when I was maybe 10 or 11. At the age of 13 a girl tried to seduce me but I felt I was too young. I hadn't had a proper puberty yet. Maybe I was closer to 12 actually.

Scary.

Then an aggressive girl across the street was babysitting and invited me over to the empty house. The kid was asleep. She wanted me. But I couldn't really get into it. I was scared.

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