How is the bond between people in love maintained? Scientists at the Bonn University Medical Center have discovered a biological mechanism that could explain the attraction between loving couples: If oxytocin is administered to men and if they are shown pictures of their partner, the bonding hormone stimulates the reward center in the brain, increasing the attractiveness of the partner, and strengthening monogamy.
This book, by Leigh Martin, has two parts. The first part is a fictional account of a traveller who visits a village that is still influenced by the ancient Indus Valley Civilization (IVC). It includes a sacred sex encounter. (Excerpt below)
The second part is a scholarly and practical account of IVC practices and wisdom. Illustrated with photographs and line drawings, it describes 14 healthy practices that reach into every corner of life; from meditation to massage, from diet to detox, from philosophy to laughter and from sacred sex to sunshine.
What was the IVC? According to Martin, the IVC was a non-violent egalitarian society, which was also technically advanced. It flourished for a thousand years without weapons or war with neighbours (from 2900 BC to 1900 BC). It is a lesson and a challenge to all modern societies who believe they are “advanced,” yet are riven by internal strife and repeatedly at war.
Harvard has just released a new book about a 75-year longitudinal study, which tracked 268 undergraduates. The study’s goal was to determine what factors contribute most strongly to human flourishing. The results suggest that humanity today is pretty far off course. Researchers found that addiction caused the most chaos, illness and unhappiness. They also found that warm relationships with parents and mates were associated with more earning power and happier lives.
SCIENCE has looked into some strange things over the centuries — reports of gargantuan sea monsters, purported images of Jesus, sightings of alien spaceships and so on. When I first heard of spontaneous orgasm, while researching a book on yoga, including its libidinal cousin, tantra, I figured it was more allegory than reality and in any event would prove beyond the reach of even the boldest investigators.
[This is a post by Lynn Saxon, author of "Sex At Dusk: Removing the Shiny Wrapping from 'Sex At Dawn'." It provides perspective for Daniel Bergner's new book "What Do Women Want."]
Daniel Bergner’s “What do Women Want” presents some thought-provoking, if limited, information about female sexuality. It challenges the idea that female sexuality is more about making babies than enjoying sex, and promotes instead a picture of a naturally insatiable female sexual appetite that should leave men quaking in their boxers.
From an anonymous male, aged 40+
I have been in several very loving, amorous, “serious” relationships as an adult, none frivolous and none (at least on a conscious level – who the hell knows what’s going on with me subconsiously) with the intention of being short-term. Inevitably, however, my sexual attraction for my partner wanes to the point where we become virtually non-sexual.
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A forum member has created new English versions of both Karezza: Ethics of Marriage by Stockham and The Karezza Method by Lloyd. They can be found here: FREE sacred sex classics. Well worth reading. Enjoy!
[Note: This image is the cover of the French translation, which, unfortunately, is not available through this site.]
Excellent talk with the latest on the neurochemistry of pair bonding.