Cyber erotica: Can pixels alleviate an evolutionary yearning?
"Dilbert's" creator predicts that if people "continue their trend of getting fatter and more argumentative ... the Digital Crossover [from human to cybersex] is less than ten years away."
In spite of all the bed sheet fights, constant snoring and other irritating bedroom habits of your partner, sleeping together may get you a longer life compared to those who sleep alone, says a latest study. Couples who sleep together are reportedly healthier even if it makes them get up a few times in the night or experience a little uncomfortable sleep, believe researchers.
This is a story of my going from porn and masturbation and occasional ED to no porn, no masturbation, no ejaculations, no ED and wonderful sex and an even better life than before (and it was good before.)
When I started on this journey I was masturbating to porn maybe 3 to 6 times a week. I had been using porn since I was maybe 13 or so. Thankfully I never got into video porn. But even at age 13, one of the first erotic novels I read was one that had a lot of spanking and discipline stuff and this appealed to me hugely.
Diana Richardson is coming out with a new book: Tantric Love Letters: On Sex & Affairs of the Heart. I have just read a preview copy. The letters are from readers and workshop participants about the practice of "cool sex." Some letters recount its remarkable benefits, yet some of the most enlightening are about its challenges.
Richardson's thoughtful, thorough answers are also included where appropriate, and she doesn't shrink from addressing difficult issues.
What happens when you ejaculate too much?
Scientists are discovering a neurochemical "hangover" after sexual satiety, which if overridden by more ejaculation, adversely affects mood and the ability to cope with stimulants. First we'll look at the science; then we'll consider what it might mean for those masturbating more frequently than they would have without Internet porn.
Research reveals lingering postcoital cycle in women
In 2011, UK researchers released an interesting survey of postcoital symptoms in women. It didn't fit the standard script about how sex and orgasms transform women into glowing, satisfied beings or eager, contented lovers. Researchers noted,
Despite a wealth of evidence from specific internet sites and forums suggesting that irritability, crying and mood swings after sex seem to be common in females and males, to date no scientific study has tried to explore the nature of the phenomenon. ... Reports from female sufferers describing their condition suggest that [postcoital symptoms] can occur after sexual intercourse, both with and without orgasm.
This is part of a manuscript by a man in England named Leigh Martin, a retired therapist. It's called Bathing The Soul, and I share it with his permission. It begins with a thorough look at an ancient culture that thrived some five thousand years ago in the Indus Valley...for seven hundred apparently peaceful, prosperous years. (Thereafter an earthquake shifted the course of the river on which the civilization depended and its citizens scattered.) Key aspects of this ancient culture are believed to survive in the non-violent Jain tradition, with over four million adherents in India today. Jains have an ancient tradition of scholarship and Jain libraries are the oldest in India. Jainism influenced Hinduism, Buddhism and Christianity, among other traditions. According to Martin, the pre-Jain Indus Valley Civilization (IVC),
was unlike any other. They didn't fight their neighbours, they didn't celebrate war and conquest, and they didn't even make weapons. Instead the archaeologists dug up only loads of toys. They were egalitarian and had no wealthy elite. They built great cities that were technically advanced and even had bathing facilities within very many homes. They were also ethically advanced and tolerant of diversity .... They had an astonishingly modern and even "scientific" understanding of what is healthy.
Physical affection is so powerful that, even if a relationship doesn't always seem perfect (and what relationship always does?), it may help make up for the negatives. Certain couples, for example, reported low marital satisfaction due, presumably, to some of the common challenges couples face (e.g. differences in parenting styles, financial stress, divisions of responsibility). However, if their levels of physical affection remained high, the couple still reported intense love.
A survey reveals many American couples are still "intensely in love" even after a decade together--and hints at the reasons why
This new research is consistent with the concept that bonding behaviors strengthen human pair bonds.
New research links levels of the “cuddle hormone” with falling, and staying, in love.
There’s nothing like the bliss of a new romance. And yet, many experiencing such rapture find it disrupted by a nagging question: How do we know our love will last? Newly published research suggests a possible answer: Get your oxytocin levels checked. A team of researchers led by Inna Schneiderman of the Gonda Brain Sciences Center of Israel’s Bar-Ilan University have just published a study examining the role oxytocin, commonly called the “cuddle hormone,” plays in the early stages of romantic relationships. While differentiating cause and effect is tricky, the researchers find a strong link between lasting relationships and high levels of the hormone.