My goodness, I have gained so much from revisiting Reuniting recently. The tips I have picked up from wealth of info on this wonderful site have made a huge difference to my practice in recent months, just wanted to express my deepest gratitude to Marnia and everyone who has ever contributed.
Our Karezza has gotten far better lately due to a few things:
The Lingering Benefits of Sex and Their Implications for Pair-Bonded Relationships
Recently I was away for a period of time, sadly, and when I got back I had an enormous amount of sexual energy and we both came.
I'm not saying this is bad, but I wonder how you do it if you have a relationship where you live apart during the week.
When you get together, do you come at first, and then not come the rest of the weekend? Or do you learn to avoid coming at all?
I liked this quotation at the end. I've asked her for the citation.
“All that we can surmise of humankinds genetic history argues for a more liberal sexual morality, in which sexual practices are to be regarded first as bonding devices and only second as a means for procreation.” ~ E.O. Wilson
Well, it's been months since I was here last. In that time my husband has more than seven months of rebooting, abstaining from the porn, masturbation and orgasm (PMO) cycle, under his belt. We haven't stuck to karezza totally but we do keep coming back to it for a variety of reasons. And our marriage is light years away from when I wrote my first post, feeling so sad that I didn't have the allure of a cat. http://www.reuniting.info/blogs/fupornwife/newcomer-wishing-i-had-allure...
it was close to three years ago when I was last on this site. This community of essentially strangers helped me so much in processing my struggles with a crumbling marriage. I was trying to salvage or "reunite" a tattered and shredded and macerated sexual relationship. Which really was only the tip of the iceberg for a relationship that was loving in some ways but so very codependent and dysfunctional in most others.