I have gotten away. For a work conference with friends so it was not all pleasure but it was pleasurable.
I got outside, supported by old friends, met new friends, and relaxed. I have loads of stuff to come home to at home and I could just break down and cry if I let myself - which I probably should because it is good for me. But this week has been life affirming.
I'm off on a trip for a week. I really need a break from the pressure of my day to day existence. I am off to see some comforting friends, to laugh for a week, to learn and lead (it's a working trip) and to just see myself as someone outside of my daily struggles.
Okay, so here is an update on my sexual exchanges recently:
That's the thing I like about this site. Everyone is welcome on each other's journey. It's like a trek with friends who you did not know before the journey started, will be ending in different places, but will be able to help each other on the way.
I haven't posted for a while. It's been an odd period. Having visitors, visiting others, I've found really disrupts routine, especially new routines that haven't become fixed. What happens then is that old routines reassert themselves. I think I've finally cottoned on the the fact that it's okay when others are around that our attention which previously we would give to each other should become easily fragmented; and that when we're alone again there's no need to resent the period of 'separation' so much as relish the possibilities of new found togetherness.
without porn and its feeling good. Still dealing with many different stressful events (more than usual) but i refuse to escape and numb out. I think each time i survive difficult emotional times without using, it gets easier. at least it seems that way for now.
Been working some serious overtime lately but, somehow, despite the urge to numb out to the stress and worry with porn, i haven't. It's been about 3 weeks. That isn't to say i haven't orgasmed since i have, but it was with a partner and it was slow and conscious. I think it makes sense to deal with these issue in order or porn (1) and then (2) sacred sex. For me, i think there needs to be some levels of competence and progression if this will work in the long run. It's cool some people can do them at once.
I haven't had much action recently so don't have much to report on that end . . . but since it is all a continuum, thought I'd share some insights I've had recently around ecstacy and joy and abandon.
Greetings all -
In another thread I recently decided to share my journey with my addiction to image-perfecting, an addiction that I feel is prevalent in women in this culture, is the converse side of porn addiction, and which basically undermines women's abilities to live comfortably in and share their true essence and womanhood.
I have been working at home the last few weeks and the amount of time spent alone has been really excrutiating at times and has made the porn addiction even harder to deal with. It seems boredom, loneliness, fear of future..all these things can make porn seem so inviting and wipe away uncomfortable feelings, going numb using fantasy and sexual images. But I also know that the aftermath is depression and despair, so i have been not indulging. Having the previous structure of working full time in the office didn't give me as many chances or freedom to do what i want during the day.