According to me, gaining self-control consists of controlling the senses and the mind. The foremost step towards self-control is to be conscious (aware of the self) -- being conscious is the gateway to all freedom -- be your Self, not yourself.
Overcoming addiction is a very high priority goal of a Stoic, because the primary signature of a Stoic is the lack of desire (which breeds attachment), motivated instead by goodness/righteousness. Overcoming any type of addiction requires knowledge, time, effort, and commitment to a high degree (quantitatively and qualitatively). Initially one is required to explore clearly one's beliefs (examining their cause and how they affect one's perception) and align them according to nature's laws, among which is virtue -- the standard of ultimate glory and freedom.
Welcome to The Light of Virtue, my blog regarding my recovery process from being a masturbation/pornography addict to a virtuous Stoic. I will introduce myself briefly here to give you an idea of my belief system.
In this blog, I will be commenting on some of my favorite spiritual texts.
I am not a spiritual person. I would like to become one.
I don't know much. To tell the truth, in terms of spirituality, I know almost nothing. I would like to sort out my beliefs from my knowledge.
I have read a lot; I have heard much; but I have experienced very little; I have made very little progress since I started out on my spiritual journey (a long, long time ago).
So I would like to read and truly understand some sacred texts. I would like to truly experience what they say.
Still riding the coaster. Quiting an addiction seems to be the hardest thing in the world and yet the easiest in another sense. I encourage the younger male members of the site to really listen to the stories here of men and look at and he results of years and years of addictive behavior. Beware it's effects on the mind and the impediment for general peace and happiness that can result. Not from a standpoint of sin, or any such nonsense, but from the scientific point of ruining your brain, and the spiritual one of distancing your from your Spirit, your humanity.
I'm beginning to think there is a very real correlate between habitual behavior and stress, as I have begun to see that almost all of my habits are done directly after a supposedly minor stress (which I am usually not even aware of), rather than for the actual pleasure or satisfaction that activity may bring.
I'm constantly surprised at how much my sexuality can change and unfold without a lover. The most exciting developments in my meditative self-loving experiment have been 1) the discovery of the correlation between deep breathing and electrical charge throughout my body 2) how unnecessary orgasm is for sexual fulfillment, and 3) the rediscovery of my spine as a dynamic, rhythmic electrical channel.
if nothing else, I commit to honesty here in my blog and to whoever is bored enough to read it :)
I had a major setback over the weekend and am really starting to question my commitment to really changing in regards to the misuse of my sexuality. I don't want to laden it too much with guilt since i know that is useless, but I can't help feeling so let down that I the decisions I made were ones of least resistance and not beneficial to longer-term goals.
I recently read a book by a British survivor of the Burmese Death Railway. He tells a harrowing account of how a ragged group of half starved, emaciated Allied survivors were being marched from one wretched camp to another by Japanese guards who beat them, occasionally to their deaths, if they flagged.