I come here from NoFap.com, a site my husband discovered after more than 20 years of porn addiction. We've been married 11 years, he finally told me after 5 lonely and confused years of marriage (he had given up porn a couple years before he met me but relapsed after we got married) and we've struggled through nearly 7 years of marriage with little to no connection and communication after he finally told me about porn.
So I lied a little bit that our nice night was completely karezza- hence why I had an orgasm at the end of it. But regardless I learned some important stuff, or rediscovered it if you will.
One, when my needs of karezza are met, I am willing and interested in playing other sexual games or doing something for my partner that they would like. When I don't have a nice dose of PIV, I don't feel connected and not very interested or happy about doing other sexual favors.
I am wondering if anyone on this forum has dealt with feeling like they despise or feel disgusted by high energy sexuality and sexual personalities I tend to feel really triggered by highly sexual women and I'm not sure if it's because I am afraid of my own potential bisexuality or the aspect of my life or if I am not very sexual at all and I feel shame about that.
I don't have much to say especially since I already wrote this entry once and then my phone died :P but I feel I need to share my insights anyways so I don't forget or lose them. I was not intending to have an orgasm but because we were low on time and did have not enough time for a sustained relaxed interaction I "wanted more" and had a small orgasm.
I have been reading here since about 2012, and been in a couple of relationships since that time. One was with what I feel was a sociopath, and one was just brief and probably with a relatively normal person who would never go near karezza.
I have had issues with arousal since the day I began being sexually active, ten years ago. Having slower sex has helped me achieve having orgasms- ironically- but now I realize I don't even want them because of the emotional side effects related. So Karezza is the current path, regardless..
I met a couple of friends that were interested in learning about this subject. We were offered to be interviewed. Check it out!
(Our names are spelled incorrect on the website. Just FYI)
This is what I see culminating with Marnia's and Diana's work. What we are seeing is what is next, what is after the sex we have known.
Its a first go at my own video...
Hope you enjoy. Let me know your thoughts.
This is a sprawl note that I made in my cell phone after a realization about orgasms and their influence on worsening emotional exchanges between my partner and I.