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Submitted by alex_is_bonding on

A few years back I was introduced to Thomas Campbell's "My Big Toe." In it, he discusses how fractals exist at every level of reality. The most basic fractal is evolution, which he colorfully states as "grow or die." I've been thinking of the fractals that exist in bonding. I've come to realize that if I want to experience a deeper bond with my wife, I need to bond with everything. My morning coffee, the jazz music that I listen to on Pandora, the sun coming through the leaves, the work that I do, and even the movements of my body through physical space.

"The emergence of the 'pornosexual': internet users who shun sex with real people"

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Submitted by Marnia on

[This may be of interest to some.]

A phenomenon dubbed "pornosexuality" has emerged where people prefer online porn to sex with real people, it has been claimed.

The term describes someone whose "sexual orientation is linked solely to porn", according to Medical Daily.

One self-identified pornosexual quoted by the website said: "If I had to choose to have one or the other for the rest of my life, I would choose porn over real sex any day."

love and sex in Japan

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Submitted by emerson on

it's a documentary on Amazon Prime and it is CREEPY as all get-out but proabbly well worth seeing.

I think the rest of the world is getting there, but Japan is ahead of the curve.

Ugh. Includes pay-for-cuddles, the creepist lifesize dolls-as-girlfriends, supposed love gurus and experts who are clueless, and much more.

big masturbation study shows unhappiness with masturbation

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Submitted by emerson on

http://www.austin-institute.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/M-word-manusc...

More masturbation correlates with greater unhappiness.

More happiness in a relationship correlates with less masturbation.

And big surprise, LOL (irony here), if people have a lot of partner sex, they tend to masturbate very little.

Who knew???

 

Improvements in gender equality and decades of sex ed have not made women more orgasmic

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Submitted by Marnia on
Interesting new study finds that - contrary to the sexology advice of the last decades - more masturbation and more partners do not increase women's ability to orgasm during partnered sex. How much do sexologists really understand about human sexuality/orgasm/sexual pleasure and their connections with wellbeing?

"Touch between romantic partners: Being stroked is more pleasant than stroking and decelerates heart rate"

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Submitted by Marnia on

Abstract

INTRODUCTION:

Touch has been found to entail positive effects in the person receiving it, whereas effects on the person giving touch have previously been unexplored. We investigated whether stroking the partner also is a pleasant experience for the person performing it, and whether it has similar effects on well-being and autonomic nervous function as being stroked or stroking oneself. Furthermore, we compared the hedonic and autonomic nervous effects of stroking the partner and self-stroking.

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