I have been lurking here for several months. This site is like no other that I have seen. Now that I have a blog, I have to put my thoughts in order. Let's see how this goes.
I know this place is big on Karezza, which is sex without orgasm (for the male), or at least without orgasm being the main goal, but what about having an orgasm without ejaculation?
My wife has pretty much NO sex drive, and she used to try to limit me to half an hour of karezza, once a week or less. A few months ago we changed how we do karezza, and since then she's been willing to do it for about an hour, once or twice a week.
I had sex for the first time about a week and a half ago - just short of my 30th birthday. The guy im with is a really good guy. He treats me well and we laugh ALOT together.
In my world all is very good. Karezza continues. Nothing has changed, which is good.
Cause and effect...lots of sexual abundance in my world, material abundance and good health continues along with it.
When I started here, maybe 6 years ago, I went back and read old threads avidly.
Marnia asked me about my contentment factor.
I am addicted to receiving affection. Gary Chapman in “The 5 Languages of Love“ talks about your Love Tank: How full is it? What fills it? As an addict I have narrowed it down to one thing, affection from my wife…all of my eggs in one basket, so to speak. I accept sex as a substitute. It’s easier for me to ask for sex than affection. If we have sex, orgasmic or not, I am stoned/high for 3-4 days then I start to slip into depression.
A forum member shared this audio file of Watts discussing his take on karezza and Chinese sexual practices. From the person who sent the link:
I timestamped it for you around the most relevant part. But before and after that timestamped area is pretty relevant too. At 43:55 he says the word "karezza".
From the moment I became sexually active, I knew that there weren't a whole lot of benefits to orgasms for me (teen me would think - "well let's not do that again because I feel very lousy now"), but they were addictive and it took me many years to seriously consider what I would do about this issue.