This is a sprawl note that I made in my cell phone after a realization about orgasms and their influence on worsening emotional exchanges between my partner and I.
I really appreciate the ability of couples who are escaping orgasm for several months. I and my wife used to engage orgasmic sex after every four weeks just before my wife's period. Now, my wife is pregnant for 7 months and we didn't need to have this 4 weeks limit. But I couldn't go more than 6 weeks so far. We had our last orgasm yesterday after around 35-37 days I think. I started to feel horny constantly and it was getting too hot during lovemaking. Eventually we both went for mutual orgasms. With my dear wife pregnant, many things has changed for the last several months.
So in light of being away from my partner for 1.5 months and I will still be away for another month, I had some pleasurable thoughts and decided to have an orgasm..
"90 Days of Not Asking" Done! there were some failures but many lessons learned.
I hope all of you are doing well. I have been bit busy lately. My wife is now 7 months pregnant with our third child. Though it was not planned but we are very happy about it. Our version of karezza and my wife's irregular taking of birth pills didn't seem to work. But, karezza seems to work perfectly to make love with my wife during pregnancy. Our intimate, almost static and non-orgasmic karezza lovemaking really suit fine with her condition. I think our love, understanding, chemistry and responsibility towards each were never such great. My other two lovely children are doing fine.
Wow it's been 5 years since I blogged on reuniting.info about my experiences, and since then it seems like an entire subculture has sprung up around this stuff, including TED talks and various online forums. I've been looking at the nofap community, and it's great to see this stuff starting to enter the mainstream consciousness in a very real way. I was talking to my brother about the nofap movement the other day, and he's trying it himself, after going through various issues with sex and relationship. Then it occurred to me, that this is where my recovery all began.
i just began a three month accelerated course in computer languages a few days ago. I'm finding it so challenging. its brining up so much primitive emotion. it feels like I'm in a foreign land at times .
What a rich and courageous path you've taken Marnia and Douglas. You've brought me here with virtually everything you talk about in your book and interviews. The teachers show up when the student is ready.
For most of my 30+ year marriage I've felt like I haven't gotten as much sex as I wanted. Now, I want to solve this problem. I welcome anyone who has a similar situation to join this discussion, and would especially like to hear from people who have solved the problem in their own marriages.