In some circles where common sex is adored, all it takes is for someone to say, "clitoris", another to say, "8000 nerve endings", and everyone within earshot will genuflect in complete agreement.
At our house, my wife's clitoris has been pretty neglected, and yet, in the last five years, she (with my help) has enjoyed more sexual pleasure (that often takes her breath away) than the prior 65 years of her life.
From the beginning of our marriage we have taken a reverent but playful approach to our lovemaking.
For the first couple years we alternated back and forth between "wand of light/sacred space" and "penis/vagina" when talking about our sex organs. Then we favored "penis/vagina" as somewhat easier to use for every day. With Karezza, our love life is always so positive that we talk about our lovemaking and sex organs a lot.
Usually I wait for a while to report a new breakthrough that we have.
I like to make sure that I clearly understand what's happening and if it's repeatable. Yesterday morning was so amazing, and it builds on our previous experiences with deep relaxation, so I'm sharing it right away. As I shared in my last post, we usually wake each other up gently in the scissors position. We did scissors this morning with many pleasurable moments together.
Good is the Enemy of Great, when it comes to sex, business and life in general.
This is a short video going over the mindset needed to pull away from the 'gravity' of conventional sex.
Cupids Poisoned Arrow was the book that finally gave me a path to this way of Making Love. Having the 3 weeks of 'Exchanges' and the mindset shift after internalizing the dopamine response gave me the motivation and ability to taste what this is all about. This short video gives my personal take on Marnia's work. It is a short video, but gets the core nugget across that really hit home for me.
What was the main lesson for you?
I have found when I get into 'hot sex' I get very personally focused. It is almost like 'hot sex' feeds or agitates my ego. I get petty and feel I need to defend myself (often in ridiculous or comical ways about 'nothing'). This video explains, in a way, what is going on.