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Submitted by EnchantingGhost on

I used to post on this site years ago back when I was a student and had just started dating my girlfriend. Now five years later we are still together and have moved in together and have a kind, loving, great relationship and yet this porn addiction still hangs over me.

so what have you learned this year?

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Submitted by emerson on

I'd love to know what you've learned this year, especially if you've been practicing Karezza for some time.

I'm still learning all the time. Our sex life is great, very stable. Very enjoyable on all fronts. It is better than ever.

I am still figuring out how not to come when I don't want to. It doesn't occur that often, but more than I would like. I'd prefer not to come at all. 

I have never "solved" the "low drive" on my wife's part, but it doesn't really matter. We have a lot of sex and it's very pleasurable and we have a wonderful life.


Submitted by whitedeer on

This may be slightly off topic but I've been wondering about it for a while and wondered if anyone else had input.

I see how I am affected in short term and longer-term ways by orgasm and higher-heat sex. I literally get sick. It's not a fun thing to re-experience over and over to learn the lesson!

One thing I have been seriously wondering about, is how a person can tell the difference between post orgasm symptoms in a partner and intentional manipulation if the partner has a personality disorder like sociopathy?


Submitted by Hockeygod28 on

I haven't been on this site in a while and thought it was a good time to do an update. I find myself in a flatline after reaching success a year ago. My success is defined in my mind as achieving an erection during intercourse. I don't know where to go next, as hard as I try to abstain from masturbation without porn I always relapse. Maybe this is because my incentive isn't enough of a motive anymore. I always pushed myself to abstain so I could one day achieve an erection with a woman. I did that. That being said, its not all roses in the bed.