it was close to three years ago when I was last on this site. This community of essentially strangers helped me so much in processing my struggles with a crumbling marriage. I was trying to salvage or "reunite" a tattered and shredded and macerated sexual relationship. Which really was only the tip of the iceberg for a relationship that was loving in some ways but so very codependent and dysfunctional in most others.
I have learned even better that a voice always says, "you should come", and when I'm inside her, I think, there is the voice, just as I expected to hear. And I pay no attention to the man behind the curtain and I avoid coming.
Except when I don't, but then I pay for it.
I found some things that increase libido and erections this year which I've been practicing, and all is good.
As I said a year ago, nothing changed wrt my wife and her low drive but I finally stopped caring.
I wanted to share a link to my blog that goes over what started me on this path. This is the result of a huge amount of "Trial and Error" and an intuitive feeling of "this isn't right" with normal sex.
I hope this helps someone see from a new perspective.
Sex without orgasm IS better.
I am thankful for the love and support found here. I am grateful for Marnia and Gary bringing forth the important information about orgasm and bonding. I give thanks for Izzy's embrace!
OMG this forum has been so flat and dead. Wake up y'all.
So I've been doing some health things that shall remain nameless and having extraordinary feelings and erections. Result is that I have come twice in a week. Not what I really enjoy.
I could have stopped it both times but I suppose it's really about getting a little too worked up.
Anyway, I want to say HI and hopefully spark some conversation here, on this most treasured place.