It is officially a month and a day since my big move! But I am cruising along great!
How did I do this?
Well even before my big move, I already shared that being OPTIMISTIC about everything in life, especially the past, is one of my keys to my rehabilitation. To let go of our past, and to see the blessings in every experience we had, and to be thankful for everything that has happened, that is happening and will happen. I started my big move to another country, already removing my excess baggage from the past, accepting and loving myself unconditionally, and prepared myself to the countless blessings that will be showered upon me.
As I look back on the past, I refocused the blessings that I received from them, and not beating myself up for being so naive, or stupid, or whatever so called "wrong decisions" that I made, and instead, I thanked those pasts for who I am now. If we take a closer look at everything that has happened and deliberately look for the blessings during an event, we would realize that who we are right now is because of our past, and that we can make a difference in our lives.
Take for example: If I took a job opportunity prior to this one I am having right now, I think that I would never be having a bonding time with one of my closest friends I have today.
Each experience we have, if we learn to count our blessings , brought us to where we are right now. We couldn't be strong, we couldn't be happier, we couldn't have met nice people here, and take my word, I couldn't have discovered REUNITING. Our daily experiences are taking us to where we are, and that all we have to do is to be POSITIVE about it.
I would be a hypocrite if I would say I didn't have sexual thoughts. Even at work when I am so tired, or lacking sleep, that my mind would wander off to the my happy place of my amazing lovemaking experience with my ex. And that I miss those times. But I just refocus myself on the NOW. Past is already past, already happened, and that there is nothing I can do but to accept that I am blessed with other things like work, new friends,healthier mind and body. Yesterday was so far the worst test of my sexual thoughts because I really was trapped on those vivid imaginations for a few minutes that I even got wet. Talk about mental masturbation! But thanks to my conscious effort, I refocused my thought on to a more optimistic approach that I am blessed with friends, family, work and nice working environment that my mental imaginations immediately disappeared from my mind.
Refocusing is not an easy thing to do, but if we are willing to LET go of our past, count our blessings, and be OPTIMISTIC about everything, I know that everything will be smooth.
There will be tests of our strength and will power,but if we are aware of how our brain thinks and how our gollum self attacks us, we will know how to be ready at these instances.
Thank you everyone
I discovered this today, and I would like to share it to everyone. If we live by this creed, I think we can have a happier outlook in life.
THE OPTIMIST'S CREED
- Christian D. Larson
I PROMISE MYSELF
To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet.
To make all your friends feel that there is something in them.
To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.
To think only of the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.
To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile.
To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.
Hugs for everyone!