I am posting this entry to share a wonderful experience I had with my wife. We've been attempting to bond together for quite some time but never been able to get past a certain point without orgasm. Whether it was Internet-related behaviors on my behalf or her doubts about the necessity of passing up orgasms, we just haven't achieved our long range goals as of yet.
A few years back I was introduced to Thomas Campbell's "My Big Toe." In it, he discusses how fractals exist at every level of reality. The most basic fractal is evolution, which he colorfully states as "grow or die." I've been thinking of the fractals that exist in bonding. I've come to realize that if I want to experience a deeper bond with my wife, I need to bond with everything. My morning coffee, the jazz music that I listen to on Pandora, the sun coming through the leaves, the work that I do, and even the movements of my body through physical space.