As I've been exploring the world of mantras I came across one that seems to be particularly relevant to what I'm attempting to do within myself:
"inviting the feminine (Shakti) energy of the Universe - Om shrim shriyei namaha (Om and Salutations to the creative abundance that is the very form of this universe)"
It's supposed to help men find a female partner. I'm not so worried about that at this point in time but finding a way to be a little less triggered by the trauma that women routinely go through in this town and gaining easier access to the divine feminine within myself seems like a good idea based on the pattern of my youth and mothering. My body seems to think so too given how it is responding to this mantra as I listen to it and chant it.
I found a really beautiful version of it on-line for free! : http://stevegold.bandcamp.com/track/om-shreem-shriyei
There is also a similar mantra for women to attract a male life partner - Sat Patim Dehi Parameshwara (Please bestow upon me a man of Truth who embodies the highest and most pure masculine attributes)
Deva Premal and Miten did a nice version of the mantra pair that is dominated by Sat Patim: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jk1L2zC6rpQ
I'm hoping that the first mantra (Om Shrim Shriyei) will help me as I heal myself. Maybe the pair could help single readers find a good partner too!