A new event for the Okanagan valley BC Canada

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Hi y'all,

If you happen to know someone living in the Okanagan valley of BC Canada, I would really appreciate passing news of this event (see below) on to them. It's a first for this valley and important to me that it be well attended.

Sincerely,

"Arnold"

Kelowna Cuddle Party

“I’m so thrilled to finally be able to announce Kelowna's First Cuddle Party!
Doors will open at 1:30 pm and the event will start at 2pm, so you can come early but don't be late as latecomers will not be admitted!
The date is Sunday December 6th and the time is 2pm to 5:30pm. Location is 883 Mount Royal Drive, True Nature Home Studio.
Just a reminder that this is a non sexual and drug and alcohol free event. 18+ only. Please wear or bring to wear pyjamas, onesies or comfy clothes. You are also free to bring a favourite pillow or stuffed animal.
Admission is $30 and tickets can be bought at  http://www.eventbrite.com/e/kelowna-cuddle-party-tickets-19542331640
You can find the Event on FB at https://www.facebook.com/events/481569075348546/
Also more information and a complete FAQ can be found at www.cuddleparty.com
I am also open to answering any and all questions. Don't hesitate to contact me at tika_bean@hotmail.com or 250-687-1810
Cheers, Erica”

What is Cuddle Party? 
Cuddle Party is a touch and communication workshop/party that helps build consent culture through healthy boundary practice, authentic communication and compassionate touch. A typical cuddle party lasts about 3 and a half hours with the first 40 minutes being the Welcome Circle, or workshop part of the party. During the Welcome Circle we will introduce ourselves, learn the rules of cuddle party (there are 11) and do some exercises to get more comfortable with each other and create a safe space and clear boundaries. At the end of the welcome circle if you decide that cuddle party is not for you, you can get your money back and leave at that time.
 
What are the Benefits of Cuddle Party? 
Compassionate touch has many health benefits, both physically and emotionally.  A sustained touch of 20 seconds or more increases levels of oxytocin in the body, and this in turn reduces stress and anxiety and lowers blood pressure. It can reduce levels of depression and aggression. Studies show that it boosts the immune system, increases intelligence and improves team performance. Compassionate touch stimulates the parts of the brain that govern empathy and trust, increasing both. In essence loving human touch is a basic requirement for both individual health and healthy communities.  Studies have also shown that North Americans are among the most touch starved in the world today.
 
But What If…? 
Some common concerns that first time cuddlers have revolve around consent, rejection and embarrassment. It’s important to know that the rules of cuddle party are designed to ensure that no one ever feels coerced into doing anything they don’t want to do. You never have to touch, cuddle or engage in any activity you don’t want to. You WILL get rejected at a cuddle party, and so will everyone else. Part of the party is learning and practicing saying and hearing no. Believe it or not we make this fun, and lighten the whole notion of “rejection”. Some people are concerned about issues of arousal at cuddle party. We view arousal as just another emotion, like attraction and joy. All of these feelings may come up for anyone of any gender at cuddle party, and we simply agree to behave as adults and not act on attraction or arousal during cuddle party. For a complete FAQ, go to www.cuddleparty.com
 
Experiences 
Although it is a long event, most participants express dismay when it comes to an end. People who began the workshop nervous and shy end up glowing and laughing with their newfound friends. The powerful feelings of connection and community are hard to describe and need to be experienced to be understood.

Kelowna Cuddle Party Webpages:
https://www.facebook.com/KootenayCuddleParty/
https://www.facebook.com/events/481569075348546/
http://www.meetup.com/Kootenay-Okanagan-Cuddle-Party-Meetup/events/

Comments

It was great!

Hi y'all,

The Okanagan of BC Canada is now officially no longer virgin territory when it comes to CuddleParties! 10 brave pioneers met to break the ice and it was a resounding success. There is talk of planning another soon!

I found the experience to be deeply relaxing. I cried more tears during those 3.5 hours than I have in many many years. They were tears of relief. I experienced a sense of play and loving affection in a group of adults that was split equally between male and female members (couples and singles), that was far deeper than I've experienced in any group that comes to mind. It was like being two years old again and playing with friends.

The rules made it remarkably safe (see: http://www.cuddleparty.com/rules/) and the spirit of the workshop was very playful. It's simplicity was elegant.

Some key words to describe it: Innocence, Playfulness, Affection, Loving touch, Joy, Community, Mutual Respect, Consent, Deep Healing.

If you have a chance and you haven't experienced it already, I highly recommend checking it out. There are CuddleParties all over the world (see: http://www.cuddleparty.com/party.php?action=find). And if there isn't one locally, check out the rules and try it with some friends.

Cheers,

Arnold.

Thanks Marnia!

There was quite a bit of talk about oxytocin in the lead up to the workshop. One piece of information that I found intriguing was the connection between cuddles, the opening of the solar plexus chakra (third), and a resultant stimulation of the Thymus gland (central to the healthy functioning of the immune system). Thanks for the contributions you made to their information base.

It's intriguing to me how this local chapter came to be. My mother heard an interview on CBC about Cuddleparty coming to the Okanagan, and referred the information to me. She knew I was interested in this approach and had been for quite a while. I tracked down the facilitator (who lives 4 hours away), offered my place (it was too small), asked among friends for an interested host and stumbled upon a friend's girlfriend who was also very keen and had a great place in which to host a workshop. We'd recently gathered to pursue chanting (Kirtan) together (another aspect of my new local healing community).

I've been working very hard to improve local community support for my own (and many other people's) basic healing related needs ever since this summer. Looks like its paying off in ways I never would have dreamed at first. This world does function in mysterious ways! Smile

Sincerely,

"Arnold"

A bumb in the road

This latest CuddleParty got cancelled because the facilitator got sick. She's not sure when she'll be able to return either. I'm doing what I can to work with the people who attended the first CuddleParty here and see what we can do on our own. I'm also exploring the possibility of training as a facilitator myself. Back to the drawing board! Sigh!

Arnold.

Yes

Yes, not completely. At least I now I've been told that the training can be done on-line and I have the experience of one professionally led CuddleParty. I've met about 8 other local people who experienced it with me and have invited them to explore this approach to healthy community without a facilitator as long as one isn't available. I have avenues to pursue and I'm doing that. Thanks for your support.

Sincerely,

Arnold.