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Best tips on REPLACING?

Submitted by breath on

I'm looking for what REPLACEMENTS work for others...
I mean your favorite ALTERNATIVEACTIVITIES.
while we may have different concerns, most here do want sometype of change in theirs lives..

I put stock in the idea that if one wants to change ones behaviour that mere abstinence is not a solution - THERE MUST BE A NEW FOCUS - AN ALTERNATIVE WHICH WILL REPLACE THE UNDESIRED HABIT.

Better than abstaining.

Submitted by breath on

Better than abstaining - Replacing.

For Better or Worse - a treasure if you have that in a relationship.

While I agree with those who vow... absolutely NO tolerance for porn, not even the smallest thought..."
.... RESPECTFULLY, i must say that that is not a FULL solution.

Yes of course, you can disallow - but you may still have thoughts/impulses of porn!

That's OK. Just don't give it weight. Don't beat yourself up. Have some compassion for yourself man.

better than abstaining

Submitted by breath on

Replacing.

For Better or Worse - a treasure if you have that in a relationship.

While I agree with those who vow... absolutely NO tolerance for porn, not even the smallest thought..."
.... RESPECTFULLY, i must say that that is not a FULL solution.

Yes of course, you can disallow - but you may still have thoughts/impulses of porn!

That's OK. Just don't give it weight. Don't beat yourself up. Have some compassion for yourself man.

In my opinion the most important thing is:
AN ALTERNATIVE WHICH YOU DO WHOLE HEARTEDLY !

mastubating with a cheap latex sleeve and lube

Submitted by breath on

Quit porn cold turkey a few days ago and
since it's a habit- not a true need (like ejaculation is imo) - no big deal!

I'm checking email, exercising, cleaning my workshop instead- no big deal - great actually!

I abstained for a bit. around day 3 (approximately - i'm not going to self flagelate or count the minutes when it comes to masturbation) (Porn though - it's the spiritual junk food that screws us up do to overavailability and over stimulation.

Anyway I USED LUBE AND A LATEX SHEATH.

48 yrs mild - med ED

Submitted by breath on

stamina during intercourse floppy. some times had to jerk vigorously to enable penatration, other times just had to give up.
quit porn less than 2 days ago.
wanting to build new pathways, habits. considering viagra.
considering cardio fitness.
considering supplements or natural remedies. was until a recent turnaround in a dead marriage with 4 kids.
now we are back except for my consistant, lasting erections.