I'm looking for what REPLACEMENTS work for others...
I mean your favorite ALTERNATIVEACTIVITIES.
while we may have different concerns, most here do want sometype of change in theirs lives..
I put stock in the idea that if one wants to change ones behaviour that mere abstinence is not a solution - THERE MUST BE A NEW FOCUS - AN ALTERNATIVE WHICH WILL REPLACE THE UNDESIRED HABIT.
Abstinence alone might even aggravate or magnify or give weight to what we feel is an undesired habit or such. Counting the days of 'not doing' - watching the clock becomes the goal as opposed to something great. Many may argue a means to an end, and sacrifice for a goal. but i look for that solution which is easy, wholistic, natural, fun etc.. (notice i wrote 'easy'- not easiest as in most familiar bad habit)
in my case i quit porn use completely. I am convinced that cold turkey, quitting %100 was the way to go... simply put porn didn't exist for most of humankinds existence!!!! and it was never needed !!! - so I should not require it. !!! The habit was just that - a habit. !!!
Since my goal was to quit EXCESSIVE masturbation and get better erections with my wife, masturbation occasionally, during periods of a few days when we are not going to have sex, is OK by my current judgement. Then I try to make it happen without the 'too perfect' stimulation (as i think of it) that only I can do.. a different grip etc. I have used a latex sleeve. In my experience the latex sleeve is lame compared to my wifes pussy ( in spite of what the ads say) so there is no concerns that i'd get hard for the sleeve and not the real thing. Quite the opposite !
Whether it's jogging reading cleaning working.. what works for others?
Anyway i'd like to hear what others top replacement solutiions to various problems are??????