So I met this new girl shortly after my out of town girlfriend left. She acted and expressed high interest in me at first.
We haven't had sex, but spent a couple nights cuddling and making out, and I had talked to her about my philosophy that exclusive, but not necessarily serious or committed right away is the way to go. How else can you find out really about a person and if they are right for you if you don't focus on one? And she even seemed open when I was talking about the slow sex stuff.
So, after a while, she asked if we were being exclusive, and I just said ya, as I said it's the way to go. And she agreed,
But she had told me her ex was abusive(rhetorical: why do I keep meeting these women?)
So, everything was fine for a few days after the exclusive thing, then she disappeared on me. ?? She told me her phone was broken, she's staying with family, and that she would let me know when she gets back. This message was on social media. After a while, I got a ?poke? and I'm thinking WTF?
I would have just cut her off, I'm used to this by now, and found it works much better in the end to not accept bullshit. My out of state girlfriend improved her behavior greatly after I flipped out on her about her disrespecting me and didn't talk to her a few days. However, I consulted the I ching and the oracle advised against this in this case...
After a week and a half of no contact, I sent her a message on social media, expressing my frustration with this and what am I waiting around for and if you can't message, at least poke me again to give me a hint you're still interested.
So, then she poked me. At first I'm thinking, "Ok, everything is cool..." Then she messaged me all about how she had lost her job, her phone shut off, her place to stay and was staying at a friends and had fallen in a deep pit of depression and confusion about what to do about her situation and what's best for her daughter. That she's sorry if she leads me on or hurts me, but wants to be friends and misses me.
So, today, I just thought, how bout I buy her a phone and send it to her. just like a prepaid $30-40 for a month of txt and calls. I even told her it's a fair exchange anyway, as she had bought me a few things. She refused, saying she is "too independent" and "not good at accepting things"
WTF ever. At this point, yeah, it sucks if she really had all that happen to her. But refusing my help, not talking to me for 2 weeks, excuses, excuses... I am now ready to give her my spiel, "I don't want to be friends, I have enough friends and can spend time on girls who actually like me, etc., good luck" and so on
I'm so frustrated. I really started to like this girl, but I'm just wishing for my out of state girlfriend right now. Yeah, she hurt my feelings at first with the "we're friends and nothing more" thing, but in the end, I started to really trust her because she never really decieved or lied to me about it. She never promised anything she couldn't deliver on and over-delivered on her promises. For example, she would say she is busy and doesn't know if she has time today, but then suddenly text me and have time, meaning she MADE time for me, and with the new girl, I'm really just thinking if she actually liked me even a fraction of what she was letting on at first, she would make time to at least talk or whatever, even if she's busy and her life is hellish.
And ya, the title of this blog is sort of a joke.