Alright so me and my girlfriend have been getting along very well lately.
we both felt a strong connection from the beginning and had talks like if we stay together eventually moving/and or living together, soulmates, possible marriage, etc., Now at first this was a mutual thing and she initiated a lot of this type of conversation.
Over the weekend, we couldn't have sex bc we were interupted, killed the moment, she likes things to be perfect and private, and she got sexually frustrated and blew up at me.
Yesterday on the phone, we talked about sex a little like normal, but today it was different, she acted like she didn't want to really talk about it. Then she mentioned that she had used some porn last night. Today she started talk to me like she didn't really want our relationship to be so serious, wants it more like in the beginning where we were friends and went on dates and stuff and just generally see each other less and she wants more time to work on herself.
I can see the working on herself part, but it's kinda more of a thing you integrate into relationships, right? But, that aside, I really think this is the porn talking, the whole I don't want to be that serious anymore thing. We are in diffiocult living situations as far as having alone and private time for sex and I am afraid she will just decide she doesn't really need me and turn to porn.
I could use advice here? should I say something about the porn?
I see that she may need time to think about things, but she has issues and it's getting a little harder for me to care about her the way I do if she keeps pushing me away and being wishy wasy sometimes and i think a lot simply has to do with those issues. She told me today that it bothered her that I am so sensitive about some of the things she says.
I thought about reflecting the same thought back to her that I need more time to myself too, which sounds manipulative, but knowing the girl and situation its more like a power balancing thing, and it could help me anyway
I had a dream the other night where we were hanging out and she was taking me for granted and I walked out on her and she was suddenly like oh shit and followed after me and was wondering if this dream is telling me this is what I need to do, something to make her realize she is actually afraid of losing me.
I've seriously though about telling her that if she isn't going to emotionally invest in me anymore, we should just break it off completely until she decides we can. I know it sound a dick thing to do but I feel she is very much taking me for granted. She always says I am the best man she has ever met but latelly even though she still treats me good, it doesn't feel as if she is putting as much into it or something. And she wants the relationship one moment and doesn't the next sometimes
shes put me through a lot of tests and found what she needs to know about me, maybe it's time I tested her