So, I had to break it off w a girl..
Initially she txted me alot then stopped txting altogether almost. So I confronted her about it and we had a falling out...
Then a few months later I just decided to txt her, see how she was doing. It was literally a one thing led to another night..
She came over and I told her she could stay in the guest room. After a little while she came to my room to snuggle. Then, after a while, we kissed and eventually sex. She was apologizing about the way she treated me before and also saying she hadn't been w anyone else...
But, she told me she was going to visit a guy friend in vegas. I thought, ok, she told me about it before so I won't worry. However no txts or calls from her during this time, then I see facebook posts that show she is basically getting drunk and partying with this guy. This is when I realized I was having a not so good gut feeling about this. I have had in the past girls I'm seeing hang with other ppl, but they do this sort of courtesy thing where they call or txt during that time, which basically lets me know theyre still thinking of me..
So, I knew I had to break it off w her and I did, but I felt really f*cked up about it. It wasn't this particular situation, so much as I've had so many failed relationships and sh*t happen.. I was really started to feel like nothing would ever work out, like I'm just this hopeless loser, I didn't know how to make it through this time.. I was really down and depressed.
Then this other girl I've known awhile took it upon herself to cheer me up and she hung out with me when I wasn't at work and two nights in a row cuddled me. She also really made me realize how much my friends loved me.
No one has ever done anything like this before and it worked, I made it through and don't think I'll ever feel like that again, simply from knowing that someone could do this for me.
One moment when we were cuddling, I just felt this wave come over me. My heart was beating very fast and I just had to kiss her. Women who treat me good and are sweet to me are very sexy to me. We made out a little and I could've moved things along and had sex w her, but I didn't...
Well, she's the type of girl people label as "crazy".. I've dated "crazy" highly emotional women before and actually this girl isn't that bad, so far nothing major that I couldn't handle but I think my past experience helped alot. I now know and am strong enough to deal with situations that frustrate the sh*t out of other people, and make them angry or act crazy themselves. Still, the behavior I've seen isn't bad at all compared to others in my past.. And she is very sweet and loving the rest of the time.
She had told me she wants to work on herself and learn to be ok with herself alone, and so I didn't move things further from a little making out.
Now I'm in a position where.. I'm trying to be there for her(shes there for me), thru her "crazy" moments and her battle with alcohol addiction.. We hang out, I make her laugh or calm down when she starts getting angry or irritated, and she is starting to trust me, which is rare for her, and it's because she knows I will handle it if she goes into a rage.. I either make her laugh and calm down, calmly tell her calm down and she does, or walk away until she does. There is a good amount of laughter and fun going on here. I don't think I could do this if I'd gotten involved with her sexually.
Sometimes I think we're really great for each other and other times wonder if I'm doing the right thing..
But after my previous experiences I've developed a theory. Highly emotional women tend to go after one guy, then another, then another. Besides the CPA theory, I believe this is also due the fact that, being highly emotional, they fall in love quickly and really feel things for a person and sometime after being sexual, realize deep down they don't really know or trust the person. So my theory is to actually build trust and a good bond first then, when mutual trust and that has developed, a relationship could be pursued. I'm not saying this will happen, just that we can be awesome friends and are happy together and if one day that mutual trust has developed, ok, I might go for it...
But, maybe I will have to cut this person from my life for disrespecting me one day or something.. I guess, until that happens, she's done nothing really wrong, so how can I punish a person who hasn't actually commited a crime?
I'm hopeful though.. She is the only highly emotional woman I've met who is actually looking at her behavior and giving a genuine effort to improve, including anger management classes, alcohol treatment, and counseling.