I was checking emails this morning and saw one from a psychic hotline blog that i still get. I signed up for this years ago and bearly ever read it (unless i'm checking my horoscope. lol) However, today's article caught my eye. It was about "the worst kinds of sex" Number 11 on this list was the most interesting because it correlated with the Karezza forum here.
here's the article:
When Too Far is Too Far
Sex is a big topic in relationships these days. You’ve got the people getting too much of it (often from the wrong people, a.k.a. cheating), not enough, or the wrong kind (bad sex). While you may think you know the difference between healthy and unhealthy sex… do you really?
1. Make-Up Sex
Make-up sex can be a hit or miss affair. It works for some, and not for others. It is particularly damaging if one partner sees it as a fix-all to every argument. This is when a partner heads for the bedroom every time a disagreement starts up. Then, after the hormones settle, someone is usually left feeling lonely and cheated. You should also be aware that this kind of sex may reward your partner for creating drama in the relationship, which means you may end up seeing a lot more of it.
2. Third-Date Sex
There are no rules when it comes to sex. You should listen to your gut when it comes to deciding when the time is right. It could be the first date, or the 30th. The most important thing is that you have a say in the decision.
3. Break-Up Sex
It may be tempting to engage in one last hurrah, but it may make the heartbreak worse for you or your partner. Breaking up creates an assortment of painful feelings and emotions (for both people). Break-up sex may create an association with these feeling, which could take some of the thunder out of your next intimate moment.
4. Rebound Sex
Research shows that rebound sex can actually make a man feel better about himself. It brings renewed confidence, release of stress and offers the compliment of being desired by another woman. However, this does not have the same effect on all women. In fact, most women report feeling worse after this kind of sex.
5. Pity Sex
Having sex because you feel sorry for someone may make them feel better (if they don’t know you pity them) but it won’t make you feel better about yourself.
6. Drunk Sex
Losing your inhibition may seem like the perfect cocktail to an all-night sex marathon. However, when this love potion can cloud judgment, dampen sensation, dwindle your orgasm and wilt his magic Twizzle stick, it is usually better to limit your consumption to a light buzz.
“We go into relationships at the level of our self-esteem.” – Psychic Fiona ext. 5178
7. “Keep Him” Sex
In a world of players and keepers, the jerk has it made when his moody behavior gets him sex, because his partner is trying to do what she can to keep him (or take the relationship to the next level). However, if a guy isn’t willing to wait for sex, he won’t be willing to wait around afterward, either.
8. Routine Sex
Many long-term relationships eventually fall into a “sex routine.” Regular sex is good, and sometimes you have to schedule it to fit into a busy lifestyle. However, be aware that this can lead to boredom and lack of enthusiasm. Put in the effort to shake things up every once in awhile.
9. Obligatory Sex
Obligatory sex usually follows the sex routine, as one partner may no longer enjoy it, but feels they need to do it anyway, to fulfill their duty. This kind of thinking will only lead to resentment and romance kill.
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10. Reward Sex
Reward sex is the same as obligatory. But instead of doing it for your partner’s benefit, you are doing it for your own. This good deed has nothing to do with love, intimacy, or affection. In other words, sex becomes a reward for getting what you want. This kind of arrangement most always ends badly.
11. Goal-Oriented Sex
Sex is more fun when it is experienced without the stress of a particular goal, such as an orgasm. This is because if that goal is not reached, both partner’s end up feeling like the sex was not good. This is the kind of thinking that will lead to obligatory sex. Instead, try incorporating spiritual sex into your lovemaking.
12. Magazine “Tip” Sex
This is a reminder not to expect too much out of new positions featured in magazines. It is not the individual position that will rekindle the romance, but rather your willingness to put more effort into experimentation and learning to “listen” to what your partner wants.