I've been reading the blog entries and I wanted to join the community for some time now.
I'm a virgin and a college student, and I used to be addicted to pornography and masturbation. However, coming across the Cupid's Poisoned Arrow by chance, it changed my world. I... no, my body agreed with every statement of the book. Reading the book was like the "The Truth will set you free" period.
That urge to release has lost so much force, because... to simply put it, why? It's weird, because I almost could taste that unified state that is so commonly described from so many karezza accounts. It's as if my body somehow realized the unrealized. It's like how the human baby knows that it needs to be fed and knows how to feed itself without prior "education" or "experience". I know that the book makes this point somewhat, but seeing the majority of karezza practioners' accounts declaring that conventional sex has lost much of its appeal to them because of how satisfying and fulfilling karezza is, I'm convinced that karezza is as natural as orgasm, if not more.
Since then, I wasn't perfect in staying off, but to put a number down, I would say that I'm 98% recovered. To put it bluntly, that multiple times of releasing during the day is now reduced to maybe once or twice a month.
As I have started meditating recently, I can see how karezza is arguably the ultimate form of meditation.
At the same time, I find Cupid's Poisoned Arrow to be as much a philosophical book. It's odd, but I have even found much value in applying the way of goalless living, yet with full awareness and intention into the present into my everyday life.
Well, that's a lot of honest blabber from a virgin.
I'm really happy that I can now freely ask questions about this topic and even have the opportunity to interact with THE author of the book! I hope to continue learning from the wisdom and experience of all the members here.