Here's the situation:
I'm 26. Have used too much porn in the past. Have never had a relationship, but am relatively sexually experienced - though it has always been with women I have no feelings for and am only moderately attracted to.
At the moment I'm at about 7 weeks without orgasm.
In about 6 weeks from now I'm going to meet a girl I met while on holiday, and will spend a few months with her.
I've never felt so attracted to a woman like I am with her. Her touch gives me butterflies and her smile makes my heart melt.
The most we have done together is kiss, but we both want more. Although we talk about sex, and often I find myself overcome with animal urges when I think of her my rational self wants to take it very slowly, and enjoy karezza like bonding behaviours.
So, I suppose I'm looking for advice on Karezza with a new partner.
My concerns are firstly not losing myself with passion and moving too quickly ... but then I'm also concerned about being too hesitant and feeling emasculated. I think reading the forums here for encouragement and trying to ignore mainstream sexual norms really helps. Are there any articles geared towards first sexual experiences with someone?
Also, are there any specific bonding activities you can suggest? Gentle caressing is great, but I think perhaps if I have some other ideas things will be less likely to get out of control. I don't want us to rip our clothes off straight away. And, when they do come off I'd rather not move straight into explicit sexual acts. Thanks :)