The last few weeks this has been giving me trouble. I've been feeling down, so my ego has been pronounced & fragile.
In the sexual world, it seems as though whether they admit it openly or not, most women want to be ravished. There are exceptions, sure, but on the whole if a man does not take charge & fuck as if overcome by desire, he's seen as weak & less attractive.
I find this hard to deal with mentally, because while I often do feel like ravishing, I know that in the long run this leads to instability, & karezza is the logical choice. But I can't help but feel this kind of sex is not accepted, or at least that it is somehow emasculating.
This is frustrating as I felt as though I'd got past these hang ups years ago, but they seem to be rearing their head again.