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An Analogy for Sex from the female point of view

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This works pretty well for me...

Imagine guys, that every day you have dozens of cars to choose from. None of them are exactly the same, and you can drive as many as you want to providing there's enough time in your day. You can also go to other locations and find more cars available for you. Just remember that these cars are what they are and not what you imagine them to be, ~ AND when you actually get into the car, the car drives YOU.

Communication is my sex

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for now. I used to think I knew a man when I got involved with him, but I didn't. Currently, I have many male friends. One in particular has been single a long time and so has pretty much of a lone wolf thing going. We're attracted to each other, but not much alike. We work at the same company. I live in a city and drive out to the country for work. He lives in the country, but has traveled and worked in big cities a good deal in the past.

I feel like I am somewhat working backwards on this

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I got into art, yoga and meditation at a pretty young age. This led me into relationships with men of a similar nature, and they tended to be into Eastern philosophy. So, my sex life went toward gentler, tantra-based attitudes pretty early on. That's not to say I haven't seen the destructive side, but for me it has come from a different perspective. One writer on this site voiced reservations about doing stuff like this in a casual relationship. He is right.

Where is the Love :)

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I have not made love for over a year. In my last relationship we instinctively engaged in Karezza, I hadn't heard of it yet. The biggest barrier to a new relationship has been the lack of consciousness I see in regards to loving touch. Since my last experience, I don't want traditional sex and would actually feel as if it was somewhat of an assault.