To me, Karezza is a mutual experience. It is more than just being "non orgasmic". I think it's pursuing sexual intercourse with the goal of bonding and union without the interference and interruption of orgasm and all the goal-seeking and arousal-climbing that orgasm entails.
It isn't possible to do Karezza really unless both partners are into it.
But Darryl has said his wife was having orgasms for years before she chose to stop having them. And my experience is a bit similar so far.
So here's the point.
I can see how if a woman orgasms sometimes and is not really into the whole Karezza thing, the guy can still remain non-orgasmic. That's my case really. My wife isn't totally on board with *no* orgasms. We enjoy true Karezza most of the time but sometimes she wants an orgasm and that's fine with me.
I figure she's a big girl and is capable of making her own decisions.
And her orgasm doesn't stop me from having Karezza with her most of the time because she isn't having orgasms most of the time either. She and I are practicing Karezza really and truly and orgasms are only once in awhile on the table for her.
But what if it was reversed. What if she wanted to practice connecting with intercourse and having a bonding meditative sexual experience all the time, but what if I wasn't into it?
What if I insisted on coming when we had sex? I would want to come all the time, and then that would kind of end it for her. And there would be the whole "get me aroused" thing.
I can't see how that would work really well.
What are your thoughts about Karezza if the man isn't into it? Is it even possible in any way, shape or form?