Some of the guys here have been experiencing what Darryl calls so aptly feminine lockdown. Women who just seem closed to their sexuality and pleasure from sex, often even talking about sex.
My partner is fabulous and the most amazing person and she is in a lockdown situation as far as I can see.
I think a lot of lockdown stems from women feeling vulnerable to being controlled by men.
My partner sees me as trying to control her sometimes. Maybe she sees that other men tried to do that in the past. So she responded maybe a long time ago with a defensive strategy. Now that is her habitual thinking. And so the more I try to get her to read books or do this or that, the more she picks up "he's trying to tell me what to do" so I have to back off.
I'm still not sure how to get her to really open up but I'm pretty sure I can't do anything to get her to do anything.
I think the solution is just in continuing what we are doing, which she seems to really enjoy, and let things progress. And I think at some point she may become more of an actively interested participant. When she doesn't perceive that I'm trying to tell her what to do, think or feel.
How's that for a paradox :)