We have intercourse about every other day or maybe slightly less often these days. But about that much occasionally missing a day.
Today she woke up and didn't want to cuddle. She feels trapped that I always want to do that and she wants freedom to come downstairs and drink her tea and get on with her day.
Fundamentally that is the issue for me. Although we are in (her) post-O stage (day 10) so it's hard to say what's affected by that or what isn't.
I'm thinking, if she is having sex with me this often, why shouldn't she become interested in sex a little bit and maybe figure out how to be more present and aroused.
Why must she have no interest in sex and not want to make things better for herself?
I will discuss this with her after the post-O time is past. Meanwhile this is very difficult for me of course because I'm no good hiding my feelings. I can't easily detach from this the way I really should. I should just go about my existence and my day and be fully independent and not needy. But I don't.