I noticed today my lovely partner got aroused after a bit and was going for orgasm but didn't have one. She said she had fantasized during this time when she was having intercourse with me but didn't feel like having an orgasm. We're around day 28 for her since the last one. I asked her why she didn't and she said for some reason she didn't feel like it at some level.
I offered to help her out and she declined. I noticed a bit of a feeling of regret on my part, regretting that she didn't come even though in my heart I think that's better really.
At some level I get the pressure to come --- it indicates that you satisfied your partner. Not coming is a bit difficult given this "pressure".
We cuddled for a bit and she seems quite happy and I'm quite happy.
I almost came but didn't, as I opened my eyes wide and stared at the ceiling and smiled and that stopped the impending orgasm. I am far happier not having orgasms. I am having the best time of my life in every way, real balance, and although an orgasm isn't going to end the world, I really don't want one.