If you've read my blog you know that my partner is low libido and we've been having a lot of Karezza sex. Up until a week ago.
Then I just got tired of it. She hasn't been really into it all this time. She has kind of put up with it, I would say, without any real enthusiasm or interest. So I said I wasn't interested in that path anymore.
We've had some discussions since then and a few times we've had intercourse. It's like I'm trying to "fix" her and she's extremely defensive, obviously.
When we cuddle, I end up trying to get her aroused, which of course makes her more defensive. Duh.
Don't know what to do. This is a biggie for me.
I'm a guy who's very much a problem solver. She has to want to fix this problem, in my humble opinion. I suppose that makes me very pushy but I just don't know what to do.
I am trying to get her to try Daedone's Slow Sex just to get her in touch with sensations. Everything I suggest or do is an attack on her at this point.
I feel that this kind of God's plan for me, if you want to put it that way. I was not happy with our sexual life and got onto Karezza without asking or consulting my partner. She was perfectly happy just going along before as we had, and then I mucked it up. I wouldn't take that back for anything though. So now, the plan is, for me to figure this out. It's my problem really, not hers. But I don't really feel like having sex with her and experiencing incredible pleasure and she doesn't experience much of anything.
She says I always knew she didn't have a high drive, and that is so. But that doesn't mean she can't experience pleasure when we have sex.
Am I off my rocker here? Is this just a matter of being more patient? Am I being a jerk here?
Honestly, this is such an issue for me that I wouldn't want to stay married if this is how it is going to be. I didn't say that, but she knows it. I have no interest in having a marriage with little or no sex. It is very, very important to me. And I don't want to have sex with someone who isn't into it either. Screw that.
We agreed to schedule sex three times this week. I would really love to hear any ideas you have or suggestions.