I had a dream last night where I was studying some file folders of other "cases" that were collectively labeled "bonding" as in "bonding behaviors" and I got a bit aroused in my dream. I thought, this is a dopamine thing and it isn't good for me.
Next moment I was somewhere like a hotel room (traveling in real life quite a bit) and although I didn't touch my penis, I ejaculated and thought "oh no, I didn't want to do that!"
Woke up but hadn't really ejaculated at all.
I am not a huge believer that dreams mean a whole lot but that's it, that's the dream. Does it mean anything?
Spent time with one of my male friends who really took to Karezza when I discussed it with him several months back. He's one of the few people I spent time discussing this with.
Now he was telling me how enthusiastically they make love and his method is to get real close to the point of no return and dwell there.
He described these full body orgasmic feelings, drawing the feelings from his genitals to his whole body, and how it doesn't have any bad after-effects or cause any loss in his good feelings.
And, I had another guy who indirectly I described the whole thing to, who had been suffering a bad marriage and was sticking together out of a sense of obligation, who told me:
Things are REALLY turning around for him and his relationship with his wife, and this is a big reason for it (Karezza and bonding behaviors). I was really happy for him.
I always tell people if the subject comes up: if you bond a lot and make non-orgasmic love to your partner (although the making love is really optional at this point), in 3 weeks you'll be a different person. It's the tons of bonding that make a huge difference even if you and your partner are on the outs. You will be on the "ins" by the end of the 3 week period.