it's been about 10 months since I had an orgasm and that long since I masturbated.
For a few days I've had a surprising re-appearance of blue balls. Not sure why. But it's been aggravating. I think my body was saying it was time to get the ol' prostate doing its thing.
I didn't tell my partner what I would or wouldn't be doing, just figured, hey, if I feel like it I will.
And I tried to encourage her to. She says she feels self conscious about it but I said, hey why not do what you want? I encourage her because I want her to find her own space and I think she has to feel freedom to do that. She's the perfect Karezza partner really. (And she's the perfect life partner, so it figures.)
We had intercourse and I got her kind of riled up and she had an orgasm. Then I had one. It was cool, it was nice, it was great. I think my body wanted it.
She was kind of surprised that I had come.
A bit later, she said, "I like that other kind of sex much better."
"The kind where we don't come. It's a lot nicer and feels a lot better, more intimate."
I totally agree. I'm glad she said it first too. I've been the initiator and we have sex every other day, sometimes every day, and I am never sure she would do it if I didn't initiate. While I try to get over that, any positive sign from her about sex is highly desirable in my book. So this was nice that she said this on her own, and was quite emphatic about it.
I am still continuing my Karezza. This wasn't an accident. But it was a good thing I think. And a great learning experience for me and for her.