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♥my wife and I reached an agreement

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Sparkles was deeply worried that I would be unhappy now that I quit masturbating and am looking solely to our sexual union to meet my needs.

I in turn became very clingy and needy and altogether unpleasant.

We had some conversations about it. I said, let's try to have regular snuggly time, with or without intercourse, every day, before bedtime and upon waking.

She said, that seems too rules based and mechanical.

Porn interferes with how we imprint our core fantasy?

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I think we imprint on a particular core fantasy when we are maybe 10, 11, 12, whatever.

Then that's what does it for us in our sex life. That particular core fantasy is what gets us off more than anything else. It's a fantasy, yes, but it's also based in reality in some way. It isn't so off base because it originated in the world of living breathing molecular boys and girls.

Does "drippiness" - pre-cum release of semen = ejaculation?

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A great deal of the magic for me since I quite masturbating has been not ejaculating. I was with my wife and fooling around without sexual intent but I got aroused and I felt like I lost a good deal of ejaculate even though I didn't actually ejaculate. There was some fluid production beyond a few drips but short of a real ejaculation. Just wondered if this will continue, is normal, any suggestions. I have a kind of different less energized feeling afterward. Strange.

Thanks!

♥things are really changing for me

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As I write this, I am spending time in an area with a lot of beautiful women.

Recap: It's maybe been 3 or 4 weeks without any PMO and I've been doing karezza with my wife for a short while.

I went through a period of maybe 2 weeks when this first started, when I was very horny and had a great urgency and felt great pressure around sex.

It is different now.

The more time I spend with my beautiful wife even without orgasm the more thrilled I am and I don't feel that horny urgency anymore.

help recovering - my experience

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I started to masturbate when I was maybe 11 and quickly found fantasies to masturbate with, in Penthouse and a book called The _______.

I guess very early maybe 4 or 5 I didn't realize it but I found sexual pleasure in domination themes. I think this is built in somehow. So when I discovered the written word and pornographic stories I gravitated to those that had an S&M component.

Ditto with pornographic movies and videos although I never really got into these so much. I would use pornographic stories and read them and masturbate to these, often over an hour or two.

help recovering - my experience

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I started to masturbate when I was maybe 11 and quickly found fantasies to masturbate with, in Penthouse and a book called The Pearl.

I guess very early maybe 4 or 5 I didn't realize it but I found sexual pleasure in domination themes. I think this is built in somehow. So when I discovered the written word and pornographic stories I gravitated to those that had an S&M component.

Ditto with pornographic movies and videos although I never really got into these so much. I would use pornographic stories and read them and masturbate to these, often over an hour or two.

♥Help! I'm too pushy for cuddling and sex

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As I wrote a few days ago, this is very early in our new sexual relationship. My wife ("Sparkles") and I are in our fifties and since I quit masturbating and quit having orgasms, about 3 weeks ago, I am changing the relationship and my wife finds this new intensity discomfiting and "pressure" which it is.

gave her an orgasm, oh my

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So I haven't orgasmed in a few weeks or so and don't plan on it. Each day Sparkles and I are in bed snuggling and at some point I'll enter her for a bit. It's been magnificent but she says that she feels a bit pressured by me.

So today we were snuggling for the second time today, and she started to really respond. I asked her if she wanted an orgasm and she said yes so I went down on her and helped her get there and wow was that fun. She said, "occasionally I'll have an orgasm" and that's fine with me.

♥marriage, sex and karezza, intro to Emerson

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Marriage and sex, how wonderful! -- Introduction from Emerson

I started to masturbate when I was maybe 10 or 11. At the age of 13 a girl tried to seduce me but I felt I was too young. I hadn't had a proper puberty yet. Maybe I was closer to 12 actually.

Scary.

Then an aggressive girl across the street was babysitting and invited me over to the empty house. The kid was asleep. She wanted me. But I couldn't really get into it. I was scared.

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