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what do you do when you or your partner is sick?

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My wonderful wife is sick with a nasty cold. Snuggling is difficult because she is sniffing and wiping her nose. And we aren't having sex either which is totally fine. I am feeling okay, hope I don't get it. She's amazing though, how she works and does everything despite the cold. She is the most incredible woman for sure and I am so, so so lucky.

What do you do when you or your partner is sick?

Enjoyment of silly movies and the "Karezza" lifestyle

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Went and saw the Bond movie today, Skyfall.

And movies like this are all about dopamine, it seems to me. Newer special effects, scarier situations, etc. Novelty and unpredictable rewards.

And they just aren't that interesting to me anymore. Is there such a thing as losing interest in this stuff because as they used to say kind of like "I"m high on life" but "I'm high on oxytocin" Dance 4

O today

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She continues having an occasional orgasm. The thawing seems to have settled down and is hard to discern but I'm sure it's there.

Today she had an orgasm and then I couldn't help it and I had one. I feel kind of drained and depressed. Kind of like I had the stuffing knocked out of me. I never noticed this before after I had an orgasm in "the old days." I don't like this feeling much at all.

Time to get back on the horse. No big deal. It's just striking to me, a huge learning experience, to notice this at this point.

thawing continues

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Although for my beloved partner, it's mostly non-orgasmic most of the time, lately that's changed and she is having orgasms more frequently. She had two orgasms in quick succession today. That hasn't happened for a long time. 

Most of our sex is Karezza, and for me, I continue on this path of loving non orgasmic sex. For her, she is enjoying the new space she is discovering and her sexual intensity is increasing. I think this is very healthy for her as she is doing her own thing instead of whatever I have on the menu.

quiet breakthrough

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Ever since we started this journey of Karezza it was mostly all my initiative, my drive, my pushing.

My partner was going along with me but over the months it's been much of an act of faith on my part, and of course the huge pleasure I get, that has kept us going on this path.

Then last Sunday she and I had an orgasm which I mentioned in my previous post. And she made a positive comment about this approach. Since then, it's been MUCH better. She has lubricated a lot better and is more into the whole process. 

time to have an orgasm

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it's been about 10 months since I had an orgasm and that long since I masturbated.

For a few days I've had a surprising re-appearance of blue balls. Not sure why. But it's been aggravating. I think my body was saying it was time to get the ol' prostate doing its thing.

I didn't tell my partner what I would or wouldn't be doing, just figured, hey, if I feel like it I will.

things are great

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We've been at this adventure for about nine months.

I've stopped worrying about my wife or her lack of libido or whatnot. That's just crazy and I finally figured out that it is totally unnecessary.

We have sex every few days and I really enjoy it more than anything. And she seems to enjoy it too. 

They say "actions speak louder than words" and those are the actions. The rest is just a bunch of garbage my mind churns up and I don't have to listen.

a new trick -- and focusing on yourself not your partner

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I learned a new "trick" today in Karezza this morning.

I can relax my root and draw the pleasure up into my whole body. It is simply astounding. Don't know what to call it but it is extremely and amazingly pleasurable. It's a full body experience and kind of like an orgasm but not in the genitals but all over.

valley orgasm?

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I experienced something today and it lasted for several minutes. I wasn't erect at the time, just kind of inside her hanging out. And it wasn't something I felt in my genitals at all. Just all over. It wasn't waves really. Just a steady state of incredible whole body pleasure. I had been focusing on relaxing and we had been having intercourse for about 30 or 40 minutes when it happened, in scissors position. 

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