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Desiring desire?

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I said that there was something wrong. That she shouldn't be having sex with me and not getting aroused. It was either hormonal (which I doubt) or it was me, perhaps, and I understood that and want to change so I am no longer a source of pressure and defensiveness.

"I knew you wanted to do it"

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My wife loves me very much. Tonight we were laying down and she was tired, I could tell. And she started to stroke me and then said, do I want to come in? So I did. For a bit. Maybe 10 or 15 minutes. And then I stopped.

I asked her if she had enjoyed it. And she was honest, bless her heart. She said she wasn't really in the mood. I am always grateful for her honesty. I asked her why she invited me in. She said she knew I wanted to.

happiness and frustration

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We have intercourse about every other day or maybe slightly less often these days. But about that much occasionally missing a day.

Today she woke up and didn't want to cuddle. She feels trapped that I always want to do that and she wants freedom to come downstairs and drink her tea and get on with her day.

Fundamentally that is the issue for me. Although we are in (her) post-O stage (day 10) so it's hard to say what's affected by that or what isn't.

a new dialog between penis and vagina (and breasts)

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Last night was an adventure. We cuddled and I started kissing her legs (but not her genitals...at least at that point) and she asked me to give her oral which I did so she had a pretty strong orgasm.

Then I asked her to show me how to touch her breasts. I guess she felt very safe at that point and started kneading her breasts and showing me how she liked to be touched there, illustrating and explaining which she has never done.

Emerson is depressed

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Yesterday morning, I woke up and we snuggled and cuddled. I tried to get her sexually excited. She let me stimulate her vulva and clit a bit and I think if we had had more time she would have become into it. I didn't try to take or in any way, with either words, looks or anything. Then we got up.

It feels weird to just do this without taking it further but it is exactly the right thing to do. I can feel how right it is.

We interrupt this pattern to bring you -- Intercourse!

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In the morning we lay and snuggled and got a bit heated. I know she was turned on and would have had an orgasm if I had continued. To be honest I got her heated up with clitoral stimulation (bad boy).

I didn't say anything about having sex. I know she was wondering, looking at me, what is he up to? Why isn't he coming in or asking if he can?

It was one of the toughest things that I've done in bed -- but I didn't ask her or initiate intercourse. I had to be a real man by not fucking her and toughing it out.

A few thoughts on condoms

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We don't need condoms anymore but I used them throughout our earlier life when my partner was still worried about making babies...actually until only a few years ago. Note condom discussion here relates to disease free people using condoms for birth control only.

They were the bane of my sex life for a long time.

A rare fight

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So we haven't had intercourse for three days now and Sparkles has been in a very bad mood. Not sure if it's work related or just what it is. She has always had these moods and I guess now is one of them.

I cuddled with her last night and then she said that she hadn't really wanted to cuddle. But did it so I wouldn't get mad. I got mad at that point because I'm constantly the initiator of physical affection of any kind in our relationship and that has become wearying.

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