Title of this is an inside joke that you probably get if you've read comments by others on this blog here in the past.
Last night was an adventure. We cuddled and I started kissing her legs (but not her genitals...at least at that point) and she asked me to give her oral which I did so she had a pretty strong orgasm.
Then I asked her to show me how to touch her breasts. I guess she felt very safe at that point and started kneading her breasts and showing me how she liked to be touched there, illustrating and explaining which she has never done.
Yesterday morning, I woke up and we snuggled and cuddled. I tried to get her sexually excited. She let me stimulate her vulva and clit a bit and I think if we had had more time she would have become into it. I didn't try to take or in any way, with either words, looks or anything. Then we got up.
It feels weird to just do this without taking it further but it is exactly the right thing to do. I can feel how right it is.
In the morning we lay and snuggled and got a bit heated. I know she was turned on and would have had an orgasm if I had continued. To be honest I got her heated up with clitoral stimulation (bad boy).
I didn't say anything about having sex. I know she was wondering, looking at me, what is he up to? Why isn't he coming in or asking if he can?
It was one of the toughest things that I've done in bed -- but I didn't ask her or initiate intercourse. I had to be a real man by not fucking her and toughing it out.
We don't need condoms anymore but I used them throughout our earlier life when my partner was still worried about making babies...actually until only a few years ago. Note condom discussion here relates to disease free people using condoms for birth control only.
They were the bane of my sex life for a long time.
So we haven't had intercourse for three days now and Sparkles has been in a very bad mood. Not sure if it's work related or just what it is. She has always had these moods and I guess now is one of them.
I cuddled with her last night and then she said that she hadn't really wanted to cuddle. But did it so I wouldn't get mad. I got mad at that point because I'm constantly the initiator of physical affection of any kind in our relationship and that has become wearying.
Things continue to be one sided when it comes to intercourse here.
Last night we had an incredible session of stroking and cuddling. And it didn't lead to anything. I could tell it was better not to "go" anywhere from there.
During intercourse I've started focusing on the root of my penis in the perineum area. This is very new to me and it's not easy to really feel it and be aware of it but it seems to add a whole dimension to bringing genital feelings into my whole body.
I guess I'll end up trying some of Mantak Chia's methods soon just for the heck of it. Or not. But focusing on that really changes things and I've only begun to figure out how.
Any experiences? What do you focus on?
I was briefly out of town. It created a ripple for sure.
My hair grows faster. It is remarkable. And I think I am getting more hair on a bald spot on the top of my head.
Also, Sparkles is looking objectively younger and prettier even than before. She gets remarks from people she works out with. What is she doing? She looks more youthful. It is obvious to me and to everyone else who knows her.
And today someone I see occasionally remarked about my appearance, happier looking, younger looking, something like that. He isn't one to make these observations normally. I think I am differerent and people who know me can see it.