It's been a long long time since I last posted in this forum so I decided to return with an update and hopefully some good tips for newbs trying to kick the habbit.
Like most of us I'd been engaging in PMO for many years. About a year ago I decided to stop once I came across yourbrainonporn.com and realized that many of the stories were very similar to my own.
On my first attempt to kick the habbit things went really well and surprisingly easy....at first!
I went about 40 days before my first relapse. It was triggered by slowly crawling in the wrong direction. I started to "test" myself. Not edging, but touching myself and triggering erections. This led to a lot of fantasizing which caused great discomfort I'm sure many of us can relate to. Once the fantasizing went on for a while the slide into PMO was clearly set in motion.
After my first relapse I went on a little binge then recommitted to the process.
Sadly, I was never able to come close to my original 40 day marker after that. I would go for a week or so, sometimes as many as 3, then fail again. Each failure was followed by a short period of binges that could go on for days.
Today, I am on day 48 (my PR) and have had a smooth and easy ride.
I've recognized my triggers, and have avoided them with great success.
These are some of the changes I've made that may help some on this important journey!
Drinking: For me hangovers went together like peanut butter and jelly. The day after a "good" night left me with a feeling of guilt and mild anxiety. I would engage in PMO multiple times on these days.
I gave up drinking and feel much better. Now my weekends are much more productive and my anxiety much less.
Meditation: I began a daily meditation practice. Every day I meditate for 11 minutes. Nothing crazy, we all have 11 minutes to spare. It helps keep you grounded and focused and the benefits are many.
Spiritual/positive energy readings: Every day I spend at least 20 minutes reading spiritual/motivation/self help type books that fuel the desire to make positive changes in your life. True peace and happiness comes from within. These readings and meditation (a total of 30 minutes a day) really keep me grounded.
Positive energy = positive results!
Lifting/yoga: I've worked out for years. I'm in really good physical shape. For so long I wanted to meditate but always found a reason not to. Then I read a post in a bodybuilding forum that really caught my attention. The guy was pushing meditation and pointed out how other posters were willing to spend hours in a gym working their bodies to achieve desired results, but couldn't spare any time to work out the mind. Needless to say, I've meditated every day since reading that post.
In addition to lifting I've also started doing hot yoga twice a week. It's great. I'm more ripped now in my upper 30's then I've ever been in my entire life. I'm sure not drinking combined with the yoga are major factors in this.
That's about it. For me, this has made my journey an easy one.
Stay positive and make the right decisions!