39 days and flatlining bad

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It's been 39 days clean with a WD on day 33. I'm doing good no urges for P or M but then again I'm in a horrible flatline, no sexual urges at all. Morning wood was rock hard the first week but after that very sluggish or nothing. Worst part is I met a fantastic girl this last month and now she is hinting that she wants sex which scares the crap out of me because I feel I won't be ready. We've layed in my bed a few times sometimes I got somewhat hard but it never lasts long my sexual desire is just not there. In 2 weeks she wants to go away for a night somewhere and ill be at day 51 I hope my libido returns I don't want to embarrass myself. This has got to be the most frustrating reboot I wish there was something to speed it up because there is only so much I can do to delay sex luckily last week I was saved by her period.
Help me hahaha


that's not so good

pressure is not a good thing especially right now.

I would have a discussion with her. About taking things a bit slow. You can tell her why you want to do that. And that can bring you two closer together. 

I wouldn't put pressure on myself that in two weeks I had to "perform". That's lunacy because you can't tell your penis what to do -- it will do whatever it wants to do, and the more you tell it to do something, the more frustrated you will become.

So quit thinking this will work. If you have erections, it's because your penis is ready for that. If you don't, it isn't. And nothing you say or do is going to have anything to do with what it will or won't do.

Most partners

will be totally understanding as long as you make it clear you find them HOT and that you're looking forward to making up for lost time once your brain is back in balance.

Definitely spend the time with her, though. Women don't just want sex. It's you she likes. Just your loving attention is really good for her and can make her high with happiness. It's good to start slowly anyway. Just tell her you don't want to have sex your first night together.

Here's a page about talking with a partner: http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/what-do-i-tell-my-new-girlfriend