In the old days people coordinated their problems and connected big things to small things through correspondences. For example, the Kaballah has the symbolic Sephira that connect something like "Severity" with like, your right hip. In Taoism the Cosmic principles of Yin and Yang and the five elements are made to correspond with and give meaning to various pairs of organs in the body. This is a very healthy minded way to look at the world which (depending on your point of view) either gives meaning to even the smallest thing, or helps reveal the meaning of the smallest things. I think that the latter is true and want reveal the meaning of such a small thing as kissing both in terms of the sexuality it prefigures and the kind of culture it is a ritual of. This is also a practical thing since I think the normal way of kissing actually has an intrinsic meaning that pulls against healthy sexual intimacy.
Of course "Kissing Reform" is an intrinsically funny sort of notion but I don't see why being funny should detract from anything.
so. The following is mostly taken from a post I made to another site:
"this morning I had the thought that kissing contributed (among other more important things) to the unsustainability of my first experiment in tantra with another person or more precisely in, healing sexuality with another person.
Here is my basic idea: basically the face is a kind of holon of the whole being with, lets say the eyes symbolic of the mind, the nose symbolic of the heart, the mouth, lips, and tongue symbolic of the sexual and reproductive organs (I think I once read something like this in a taoist books somewhere). The third eye would then symbolize the soul or intuition. therefor the healthy kissing that would prefigure and set the scene for equally healthy tantric sexuality would presumably involve not only what is called the "tantric Kiss" ( the touching of the third eyes) but also prolonged periods or eye gazing, "rubbing noses", and yes of course the normal lips and tongue kissing.
Kissing Correspondances (I tried to paste my Table here but the following is what showed up, sorry Let me try to fix it);
Elder”, related to Third Eye Area Third Eye Kiss
Eternity and others Spiritual Affirmations,
in terms of ultimate things) Prayers, invocations
Mind (“Inner Adult”, Eyes Eye Gazing Truth Telling, Frankness
related to the Future and
to the other as fellow
Heart (“Inner Child”, Nose Rubbing Noses; Mindfulness Breathing
Related to the Past, and Breathing Together with Breathing Meditation
to the other as Noses side to side
Body/Genitalia (“Inner Animal”, Mouth and Tongue Kissing And Tongue Keeping the eyes open,
related to Present and to the other Kissing Keeping mindfulness
as Family-Member) of breathing etc can
help sustain a mood of
healing intimacy Also
a gentle slow or
what I think happened with my ex-partner (of 7 0r 8 years ago now) is that our kisses, (which were exclusively of the passionate lips and tongue variety initiated by rather unmedatitatve eye contact) were prefiguring the normal, one-dimensional 3rd chakra ego-sexuality, so that when we did eventually get to the sexual thing our tantric/taoist experiment was undermined by the mood set up in the foreplay... know what I mean?
Anyway, being with out a partner these days, I'm not in a position to do more than thought experiments in this particular area so I thought I would just share my theory with folks and maybe get some feedback. Who knows, maybe there is a whole book on the subject..."
end of quote from previous post.
In addition to just sharing these Ideas here, I wanted to show how even something as "small" as Kissing can and should be related to and a part of something as big as the commitment to relate to self and other as a whole individual-person as a part of a practice of a healthy culture intended to gradually replace the existing sick one. I probably didn't succeed in this but I'll keep trying...Maybe it all depend on how well my fixing of the table proves to be once I finally post this (I think I've gotten myself into such a fix that I won't be able to edit further once I post this, so if the table still turns out to be gibberish, at least you know I tried,