Hello Reuniting Folks, I was going introduce myself and describe how I got interested in this sort of approach to sexuality but I seem to need to get something off my chest first):
"Solving" a problem in isolation usually ends up creating (or just reinforcing) multiple other problems in areas of life one was not thinking about when one was "solving" the first problem. Science and Technology do this a lot. Witness the Green revolution which solved the problem of feeding people at the expense of the integrity of the natural world. Actually or our culture is crazy myopic and dissociated like this. I guess its the shadow side of "specialization" (I am not really sure what the "sunny" side is) but solutions arrived at in this way are intrinsically unsustainable things that only buy time for the progessive spread of the core disease by putting a bunch of false hope in a superficial treatment of one of the symptoms. Actually even if we were talking about a relatively deep treatment of a relatively major symptom (which I think we are), the result would be the same if would just take longer for that to become evident. For a truely sustainable solution there is nothing for it but to try to diagnose and treat the main disease and to understand and treat its symptoms in a way that makes sense in the light of that. This goes against the grain for many reasons I know but I personally cant stand the inane and vapid insanity that happens without it.
anyway, this crazy myopia extends to the problem of Sex and the above paragraph is meant as fair warning that I intend to keep relating the problem of Sex to other problems and other problems to the problem of sex in the posts I make here, If only just to keep myself sane and interested.
For instance, Sex obviously a part of culture. I think of Culture as a unity comprised of 1. WorldView (ones story of the main thing that is happening and why), 2.Identity-Politics (who am I and who is everybody else in terms of the story that is the Worldview or cosmology), supporting Rituals (repeated actions that reinforce the world-view and Identity-politics) and Infrastructure (the way matter space and time are structured so as to enable and support the ritual and the rest of it. So sex as a kind of ritual that implies a kind of world view, a kind of Identity-Politics, and a kind of Infrastructure; that is to say sex is intrinsic and inseparable part of the rest of culture. We live in a basically sick, alienated, dissociated culture with sick alienated dissociated cosmology, identity-politics, and infrastructure, and so not surprisingly we tend to have basically sick alienated dissocaited sex. Orgasm itself is a kind of dissociated experience that for most people requires actually no real relationship with the person one is having sex with. This kind of experience reinforces (and is reinforced by) dissociated ways of thinking (like for example the habit of accepting and celebrating isolated "solutions" to isolated/dissociated problems).
My point here is that treating the symptom of alienated sex in isolation (with the Exchanges or anything else) is likely to amount to an unsustainable cure since the underlying disease of our individual and shared sick culture is not being consciously addressed in the cure. Either the symptom wont stay "cured" or the patient will just die of some other aspect of the disease before there is time for the relapse of that particular symptom of it. The cure for alienation and exclusion is wholeness and inclusion. Any treatment of a symptom must function as an aspect of the treatment of the whole disease of sick culture and function in conscious coordination with it.
That is all I want to say for now. My next post (unless I get inspired otherwise) will be showing more what I mean by using the example of Kissing Reform. (I will get around to being more biographical eventually).