My late husband and I were meditators, energy healers, and he was an artist with a mind that naturally took things slowly and savored the moment. With his genital herpes which I did not have and didn't want to get, and with me not being into condoms, we found other ways to be intimate quite often. Now that I've discovered Karezza and what it does for a person even beyond the bedroom, I'm starting to understand things more clearly.
We met after our long-term marriages ended, mine was 22 years and his was 24 years. After 7 years of our marriage, he'd say the men at work who knew him from his previous relationship kept asking him what his secret was and why he had such a happy glow. Even though conventional sex is known to cause a hangover, during the honeymoon phase for some men there's a glow and more spring in their step. He always had that now. At his life celebration, his male cousin came up and described our relationship as a never-ending honeymoon that inspired the other men in the family.
I felt concerned -- "surely this will end -- why is this happening?" I felt strange, because we didn't have that much conventional sex and most people thought that's what it probably was -- that we had an ongoing hot peak orgasm sex life. We did have that somewhat, but not nearly as often as what people would think. It was that he was a rare person able to do Karezza-type sex without training, I guess.
Now I think I'm starting to get it.
I'm going to keep studying this during my necessary time of singlehood. This is amazing. I don't think we got as far as we could have, but I think we got a good taste of it. I'm feeling kind of blessed right now. And curious as to what more I'm going to learn.
I did spend a few months dating some very nice, handsome, men. They were great guys, not "jerks." Maybe it was just too soon, but I could not stand their energy -- the feeling that they wanted conventional sex with me, the feeling that every thing they said or did was a hidden agenda to reach that state. I thought I was a prude or that something was wrong for not wanting that anymore after knowing a different kind of sex -- but still there was a strong sex drive, a wanting of... something. I think I'm finally figuring out what Something is.