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Thought I would post a quick update - not a whole lot has been happening but might be good to put some thoughts down.

This week is 1 month since Em and I began our karezza adventure. A few things I've noticed and have been trying to work on:

- on a few occasions I have been a bit frustrated/rejected if Em and I weren't on the same page. Our timetables don't always align and she needs more sleep than I do. I need to keep working at understanding how good bonding behaviours can be and not to let it bother me if we don't connect.

- I've noticed I'm finding it hard to remain focused on my study lately. Granted second semester has only just gone back so I'm still in holidaymode, but Ive been running more often to try and get my focus back and burn some of my pent up energy.

- I've also been craving sweet foods for the sake of eating, which I think was linked to getting a dopamine kick? I can't remember exactly. Just aswell my metabolism makes short work of everything. Lol

- On a more positive note, my love and excitement toward Em whenever we see each other feels great, and I'm so glad I found this site because of this :)

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Kap wrote:

[quote=Kap]on a few occasions I have been a bit frustrated/rejected if Em and I weren't on the same page. Our timetables don't always align and she needs more sleep than I do. I need to keep working at understanding how good bonding behaviours can be and not to let it bother me if we don't connect. [/quote]

this is something I work on too. I've pretty much gotten over the feeling of lack if we don't connect because she is going to exercise class or whatnot. I remember she needs the sleep more than anything else and I want what she wants.

One thing that can be neat -- have you considered making an agreement as to when you will have intercourse? Scheduling it sometimes can be reassuring and relaxing.

Scheduling

Scheduling is a good idea. We too are in week four. What seems to work really good for us is early in the morning. My wife is sometimes a bit grumpy, but that soon changes once we get connected. We kinda have an unspoken agreement that we make love each morning before we get up for the day. It is a shame that all the 'stuff' in life gets in the way, study, work, exercise, etc., but if all we had to do was lay around and make love all day it might get boring.