"Karezza" is a term coined over a century ago, and several old books discuss it. It can be interesting and enlightening to read what others had to say about it, or similar practices. Click the "WISDOM tab at the top of the page and explore some of the links in the lefthand margin.
Here's one visitor's "Recommended Reading" list:
(thegentlevegan) Let me say briefly which books and articles about Karezza I have been reading that have been ultimately helpful for our experience:
First, Alice B. Stockham's The Ethics of Marriage lots of theory, but also plenty of practical letters from struggling couples with Stockham's advice attached.
William Lloyd's book The Karezza Method from sacred texts website. very helpful in spelling out how karezza works, and more poetic in descriptions, for some imagination on how to get started.
Dr. Rudolph Von Urban's Sexual Perfection and Marital Happiness- ultimately what convinced me that Karezza WORKS. Nine case studies of unsuccessful, moderate, and very successful couples, gendered bias from the time period written (1948), but still applicable today for many relationships in the US! Applied information is very helpful. Also, helps dispel the idea that sexuality is separate from our happiness, and that it is very possible for couples to change the course of their relationships in a practical way.
Cupid's Poisoned Arrow:From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships by Marnia Robinson. Discusses brain chemistry of orgasm and bonding against a backdrop of sacred sex traditions across history and from around the globe.
The article on Reuniting.Info by kevinj, Karezza Explored (an interview with Darryl and Rachael, the follow up to the four steps for men) is helpful. Outlines the theory and misconceptions/opinions by men on Karezza. THIS ONE HELPED OPEN UP BOTH OF US MORE TO THE IDEAS SURROUNDING KAREZZA, although we have both been more open to the idea over a period of months.
It has taken us several months to educate ourselves about Karezza and become open to the idea of trying to not have orgasm, and having slow "cool" sex.
My partner read Cupid's Poisoned Arrow earlier this year and wasn't highly convinced, although he was open to the ideas. I read it July, and I was convinced, although I was hesitant about taking on ideas about Karezza that I hadn't tried myself in practice with my partner to see if I really wanted to incorporate them into our lives. Reading all of these books helped immensely in educating myself and creating more sound, practical, and pleasurable decisions. If I hadn't read these books, I wouldn't have learned a lot of the small tips, new perspectives on sexuality, or practical structured advice on Karezza, which is pretty non-intuitive if you've grown up learning conventional sexuality from magazines, tv, movies, and society of the late 1900's and early 2000's. ... I am very grateful for this information, because I wouldn't have been able to find out what I needed without these insights.